dashcat
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Oh Good God!
I've posted about a week ago about my difficult child and her impulsive behavior (stolen wedding rings - just because she wanted them) and her having almost broken one of my house rules by agreeing to have a guy she'd met online (but with whom she was in luuuvvv, but who subsequently dropped her when the booty call AT MY HOUSE did not come through).
Also - she let her car insurance lapse, is late on her rent and was late on her phone. Her dad has her on his plan - she's responsbile for the bill, but it affects his credit rating if she's late. She's been late twice and would have been a third time today. Mr. Ossy has really been stepping up where she's concerned and he strapped on his little feathery ossy-balls and paid the bill BUT turned off her texting, removed her from online access to the account and turned off her data plan Now her phone only callls people. He's goingto tell her that, upon repayment of the debt and proof that she has car insurance (the law in ohio), he will turn her texting on.
That's the backstory.
Last night she breezes home at 6:00 p.m. after running "errands" (I am flat out on the couch with a very ugly puking, no eating, bone crushing virus) and announces that she and C are having a "girls night". She is spending the night. She grabs a bag and is heading for the door "What's the hurry?" I ask (6:00 p.m. for a sleepover? And who has sleepovers at 21?) "Oh, she's waiting in the driveway. I told her not to come in because you are so sick". She flies out the door and I look out the front door. A HUGE car - like a Lincoln Town Car ..NOT C's car (which I've seen in my driveway) is pulling out. I say the serenity prayer all night. If I call her, she will 1. either not pick up or 2. say "We have C's dad's car".
I wait. Her normal pattern when she does an all night thing is to call/text when she gets up (latest being around 1:00). Then call/text when she's on her way. Nothing. I call at 4:00. No answer. I call at 6:00 (both calm messages, "call and check in".
She calls. "we're just getting ready to watch a Mean Girls Marathon". I say (calmly), you didn't leave in C's car. Please tell me where you are. Her response "Not at C's". Ok, who are you with. "A guy I met a little while ago."
I make her give me his name and address (she, arguing "MOM I'm SAFE", me replying "Then you don't mind giving me information, right?"). She is TWO HOURS away from here.
With a guy she just met. Online. She will be home TOMORROW at noon.
First, she broke a major trust rule. Nobody picks her up here unless I meet him. NOBODY. This is my house.
Second, (but the larger issue), she has just spent 1.5 nights TWO HOURS away with a stranger.
Third, Wasn't she in love only a week ago?
I am done. I haven't decided how long she has, but she is leaving. Her time at the Dashcat Hilton has come to a close.
Mr. Ossy called while I was typing this in resonse to my text: difficult child is ok, but I have information. Call ASAP. He's hemming and making disapproving noises about my showing her the door. Really? I said "This does not mean you have to take her in." He says "I know" (but I know better).
I am hopping mad and I am scared witless.
Dash
I've posted about a week ago about my difficult child and her impulsive behavior (stolen wedding rings - just because she wanted them) and her having almost broken one of my house rules by agreeing to have a guy she'd met online (but with whom she was in luuuvvv, but who subsequently dropped her when the booty call AT MY HOUSE did not come through).
Also - she let her car insurance lapse, is late on her rent and was late on her phone. Her dad has her on his plan - she's responsbile for the bill, but it affects his credit rating if she's late. She's been late twice and would have been a third time today. Mr. Ossy has really been stepping up where she's concerned and he strapped on his little feathery ossy-balls and paid the bill BUT turned off her texting, removed her from online access to the account and turned off her data plan Now her phone only callls people. He's goingto tell her that, upon repayment of the debt and proof that she has car insurance (the law in ohio), he will turn her texting on.
That's the backstory.
Last night she breezes home at 6:00 p.m. after running "errands" (I am flat out on the couch with a very ugly puking, no eating, bone crushing virus) and announces that she and C are having a "girls night". She is spending the night. She grabs a bag and is heading for the door "What's the hurry?" I ask (6:00 p.m. for a sleepover? And who has sleepovers at 21?) "Oh, she's waiting in the driveway. I told her not to come in because you are so sick". She flies out the door and I look out the front door. A HUGE car - like a Lincoln Town Car ..NOT C's car (which I've seen in my driveway) is pulling out. I say the serenity prayer all night. If I call her, she will 1. either not pick up or 2. say "We have C's dad's car".
I wait. Her normal pattern when she does an all night thing is to call/text when she gets up (latest being around 1:00). Then call/text when she's on her way. Nothing. I call at 4:00. No answer. I call at 6:00 (both calm messages, "call and check in".
She calls. "we're just getting ready to watch a Mean Girls Marathon". I say (calmly), you didn't leave in C's car. Please tell me where you are. Her response "Not at C's". Ok, who are you with. "A guy I met a little while ago."
I make her give me his name and address (she, arguing "MOM I'm SAFE", me replying "Then you don't mind giving me information, right?"). She is TWO HOURS away from here.
With a guy she just met. Online. She will be home TOMORROW at noon.
First, she broke a major trust rule. Nobody picks her up here unless I meet him. NOBODY. This is my house.
Second, (but the larger issue), she has just spent 1.5 nights TWO HOURS away with a stranger.
Third, Wasn't she in love only a week ago?
I am done. I haven't decided how long she has, but she is leaving. Her time at the Dashcat Hilton has come to a close.
Mr. Ossy called while I was typing this in resonse to my text: difficult child is ok, but I have information. Call ASAP. He's hemming and making disapproving noises about my showing her the door. Really? I said "This does not mean you have to take her in." He says "I know" (but I know better).
I am hopping mad and I am scared witless.
Dash