I think my soon to be 18 y/o son has ASPD. Here's our story: - His father, while never formerly diagnosed, exhibited signs of Borderline (BPD) and narcissism. Multiple affairs, etc, and a scorched earth departure. We had two boys, ages 8 and 11 when he left. He has remained in their lives. Now the oldest is turning 18 in 2 weeks. - The oldest began having difficulty in school at age 13 - couldn't remember to turn in homework, couldn't focus. Two years later, and against the wishes of his father and his therapist, I took him to his doctor for ADD. He has been on vyvanse since, and he now has straight As. He has still not been tested for ADD. - Oldest got his first cell phone when he was 14 (note, this was before he began taking medication for ADD). Because of his grades, he was grounded from his phone. I learned then that he was taking the phone from my purse and sexting a girl who lived 1 1/2 hour away he met on Instagram. - Years of grounding and he's never seemed to respond to any consequences at all. It's like he can take absolutely anything I give him with aplomb. - On Thanksgiving, we "bonded" over a philosophical conversation that he feels he can manipulate anyone because of their emotion. He doesn't understand emotion, he thinks it's pathetic. The only real emotion he believes he has ever experienced is anger, which he has quite often. - Yesterday, he texted a friend that I was being "pathetic" and b*tchy and emotional... (I just asked him to get off the computer because he had been on it for hours). He told his friend that my girlfriend and I should be hit by a bus, and that some day he'll be in jail and we'll be dead. My son is incredibly charming, at a disarming level. And it became clear that he was gaslighting me around age 14. I've become more immune to it. I'm becoming concerned for my life, for my girlfriend's life, and for my youngest son's life.