Son is in a sober living home which seems to be going fine. It was agreed upon for him to be allowed to go there by the person in charge of it that he would do their IOP since he was so bad and he has a history of relapse. He was at an IOP a few months ago and kept using and then got discharged after 2 weeks.... Those two weeks and 2 days of detox cost me over $4000.... Then he went to the residential treatment and completed that and agreed to go to their IOP.. again I paid the the co-pay - luckily that one was in network... He quit after 15 sessions saying he didn't get anything out of it. Relapsed in about 4 weeks. So he was doing this IOP connected to his sober living home. Went for 6 sessions then texts me last week he thinks he is going to quit that he is getting nothing out of it and wants to work more.... I reminded him that he agreed to go in order to live there and I wasn't sure how the owner would feel if he stopped the IOP. Other guys live there and don't do the IOP so he feels it will be fine... Then I left him know that this IOP is out of network and the insurance rolled over so this is costing me $5000 since it is out of network. It won't matter i if he goes 3 weeks or 9 weeks- I will owe this amount. That didn't seem to faze him. SO.. I am feeling I need to tell him if he quits this, then we are done financially with anything. If he were to relapse, then anymore treatment would have to come from his pocket not ours. He would still stay at the sober home if he were allowed. I pray they would allow that since other guys are there as well with-out the iOP. He said the first 2 weeks were good but then they changed it and now he doesn't like it. I told him he should discuss that with them and let them know since they are fairly new at the IOP. Just so disgusted. They say to let go. They say this is his recovery not mine. It feels like a ticking time bomb!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate this life.