Well, good morning group. It’s been a long time since I have posted. About a year ago we were waiting for our son to return from a year of treatment to be sentenced for a crime. Long story short, he did run for two weeks after his sentencing date. Only by our prayers being answered ( round the clock for 72 hrs), he pulled into our garage with an empty tank and flat tire in the middle of the night & during the Polar Vortex.. unbelievable miracle. He was sentenced to 5-10 yrs. He has 1 yr in already and is FINALLY realizing that he must make the changes from inside. Just this past week our daughter, also in her 30’s, decided to up and leave her home (she rented from us) and lose her job. After her brother was sentenced it came out that she had been a crack addict for the past 2 yrs. & had never touched anything prior to being 31. Yep 31. She has spent her life caring for others, a CNA. She cares for those that never leave her area- a hospice of sorts, but not necessarily terminal. She came to us this past April asking for help. We were able to get her in to a local facility immediately ( she had insurance through her work) and her transformation was amazing! She continued going to GOP ( meetings 3x a week upon completing treatment) and then 1x a week. She was engaged through all of this. Her fiancé used also but never felt it was an issue for him. He preferred to drink. Anyway, he held the fort down and pups while she was in recovery BUT alcohol got the best of him one night. Apparently, she had been with another man, admitted it and he forgave her. Then it happened again. He was out of his mind with doubt, sadness and hurt. Rightfully so. He was also a “ story teller” - we could never understand what was truth, exaggeration, or just BS. We decided after he damaged the house by putting his fist through the bedroom door it was time for us to evict him. Daughter was sad, but thought the break would be good for them and she would continue to work on her recovery. We had the stipulation that NO ONE else was permitted to live in her home and it was stated on the lease. Three days later I received a text asking me to keep an “open mind” but she is with the guy that she met in rehab, and he had been staying there with her.. what?????!!! Her ex’s things weren’t even moved out yet! We told her ABSOLUTELY NOT. He has pending charges ( 2 charges for theft( one being a felony), driving with-out a license 2nd time. No job. A 4 yr old son he must have supervised custody with and owes thousands in restitution. Last week we told her he needs to be out by Friday ( has been there 2 months). Nothing, and I mean nothing, has been done at the house. She missed Decembers rent, acct over-drafted and we helped her fix her car 2 wks ago. Shame on us, I know. Her response was, “ if he has to leave I am too.” She did. Friday she was gone. Left her keys on kitchen counter. Left her large dog there ( ex gave her a home - I cried and cried) but took little pup with her. All her winter clothes are still at the house. She’s made it perfectly clear we won’t see her again. I know we’ve done the right thing. I’m just needing reinforcements ( Especially in this season where “ All is Merry & Bright”) that we will make it through. That we need to NOT reach out to her. I’ve called - she doesn’t pick up. I’ve text, she will answer if we discuss his Probation Officer’s name. Lol it’s a sad, sad game. How do I let go? Thanks again for any words of encouragement.