I have had him evaluated in the past and they could not find anything wrong said that he was a perfect child while with him. I dont think he tries to make our lives miserable (and he doesnt make our lives miserable) he just seems like he doesnt care. As an infant/toddler no problems at all he was such a sweet and caring boy his whole attitude changed when he turned three and was moved up into a preschool room. I dont see where he could of seen any abuse my husband and I hardly ever argue maybe once or twice a year and even with that we have raised our voices at one another but nothing beyond that. No, he is not adopted as far as his birth they had to do an emergency c section but he was fine after delivery. As far as family, my family has never to my knowledge had a problem similar to this and my husband majority of this family passed when he was a small boy so he wouldnt know. Thank you so much for replying I need all the advice I can get. As far as the spanking, we only tried spanking for a month. It would break my heart everytime (even though it wasnt hard) it sill hurt his feelings which also hurt me. I just want him to be the sweet angel he was two years ago I just dont know what happened and I only want him to be happy and I dont think that he is right now.