My marriage has cycled back to the "calm" phase. I am still here. Thank you for all the supportive words of encouragement. They help a lot. It is embarrassing to be in this situation. No communication from DS as usual. YS is back in school, and we have a meeting there later in the week to discuss his evaluation. From the tone of some correspondence that is going back and forth, it seems like he, unlike DS, will actually be receiving an IEP from this district. As of now the plan is that we will attend this meeting. YS has already missed a day of school not one full week into the new semester. We have to do all that we can, but "given the givens" as an old therapist of mine used to say, I don't think that anything will change. We offered YS another way, to live with us, and he refused it. He is back in his comfortable prison. Dad will keep enabling these boys, and they will continue to take full advantage - both of them. At least YS will have some extra support, or so it seems, for the remainder of his days as a public school student, which I honestly think are limited. I think he will drop out or follow his brother's lead into the world of "online" (non-existent) school. I think online school does work for some children, but these two are just scam artists. YS is no longer dating the girl who saved his life. Apparently they are in contact and consider themselves "friends". I do not know the situation, who ended it, or anything else, but YS is stubbornly refusing to grow or change from his near death experience, he wants life to continue exactly as it was before his attempt, and for everyone to just forget about it. Literally nothing has changed from September 4, except now he cannot walk and has cognitive disabilities. She is a young girl, and she has issues of her own. So I am glad she moved on and that YS is accepting it, apparently. YS is no contact with his grandmother and very limited contact with my wife. Thanks all for being here and listening.