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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 719120" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>All great points. Great thread.</p><p></p><p>Our marriage was not in a good place for some time when son was at home and doing drugs and creating chaos. You all know what that is like. Son got between us. I hated it because I've always felt that what husband and I had was really good. He still makes me laugh after 25 years and he gets me.</p><p></p><p>I really felt like I was losing control of everything. My son, my marriage, my life. I hated it and I hated my son and eventually realized I hated the addiction for doing this to all of us.</p><p></p><p>All I can say from my personal experience is this is such a JOURNEY. There are so many twists and turns. I can truly see how it can tear a marriage apart OR make it stronger.</p><p></p><p>I agree, we cannot control how anyone else feels about our Difficult Child and do not even try to do that. It's not yours to control. I had to learn that and let it go. </p><p></p><p>Even though we are still on this horrible journey, now that our son is out of our home my husband and I have been able to reconnect and our bond is so strong now that I know nothing can come between us. </p><p></p><p>I no longer try to control how he feels about his son. I know he loves him no matter what happens as do I. He has grown so much during this experience and I have too. We really don't know what tomorrow brings and we have to live with that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 719120, member: 15032"] All great points. Great thread. Our marriage was not in a good place for some time when son was at home and doing drugs and creating chaos. You all know what that is like. Son got between us. I hated it because I've always felt that what husband and I had was really good. He still makes me laugh after 25 years and he gets me. I really felt like I was losing control of everything. My son, my marriage, my life. I hated it and I hated my son and eventually realized I hated the addiction for doing this to all of us. All I can say from my personal experience is this is such a JOURNEY. There are so many twists and turns. I can truly see how it can tear a marriage apart OR make it stronger. I agree, we cannot control how anyone else feels about our Difficult Child and do not even try to do that. It's not yours to control. I had to learn that and let it go. Even though we are still on this horrible journey, now that our son is out of our home my husband and I have been able to reconnect and our bond is so strong now that I know nothing can come between us. I no longer try to control how he feels about his son. I know he loves him no matter what happens as do I. He has grown so much during this experience and I have too. We really don't know what tomorrow brings and we have to live with that. [/QUOTE]
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