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<blockquote data-quote="Nessie" data-source="post: 719133" data-attributes="member: 21463"><p>it gives me great hope for my marriage when I read that others have been through, going through,survived and surviving. </p><p></p><p>Like you RN I always considered my relationship very strong but I have had recent times when I have thought we are not going to make it. I accept that how he deals with our son is up to him and maybe I have been a little selfish in that I've never really considered our experience from my husbands perspective. I confess that I sometimes feel a little envious because son behaviours and actions do not seem to affect husband as much as me. However, it isn't the case, husband just deals with things differently. The reality is that he is just as devastated and scared as I am. He probably feels he has to hold things together for me.</p><p></p><p>I must sometimes cause my family much frustration with this whole experience. I do enable my son and I promise myself I've made boundaries only to break them when there is a new crisis. Reflecting on the last few years I am sorry to say son has always won my attention and I do not want that to continue. I have a wonderful husband and two lovely daughters and I think it's time I rejoice in this rather then I have a son who is living dangerously and breaking the law. I will never love him less but I've found it hard to see the positives recently.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nessie, post: 719133, member: 21463"] it gives me great hope for my marriage when I read that others have been through, going through,survived and surviving. Like you RN I always considered my relationship very strong but I have had recent times when I have thought we are not going to make it. I accept that how he deals with our son is up to him and maybe I have been a little selfish in that I've never really considered our experience from my husbands perspective. I confess that I sometimes feel a little envious because son behaviours and actions do not seem to affect husband as much as me. However, it isn't the case, husband just deals with things differently. The reality is that he is just as devastated and scared as I am. He probably feels he has to hold things together for me. I must sometimes cause my family much frustration with this whole experience. I do enable my son and I promise myself I've made boundaries only to break them when there is a new crisis. Reflecting on the last few years I am sorry to say son has always won my attention and I do not want that to continue. I have a wonderful husband and two lovely daughters and I think it's time I rejoice in this rather then I have a son who is living dangerously and breaking the law. I will never love him less but I've found it hard to see the positives recently. [/QUOTE]
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