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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 681237" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>He is depressed and addicted to cocaine that you know about, and uses marijuana to excess. You may not know the whole story. There may be more. </p><p></p><p>Neither depression or addiction are conducive to "figuring it out." Both conditions can and do overcome both will and reason. I might question whether reason or logic will apply in your situation either. Giving addiction and depression "space" as in time alone or space to think or room to relax...are not helpful responses, in my experience. By their very nature addiction and depression consume and overcome.</p><p></p><p>You are a mother who has a depressed and addicted young adult son. This is a situation that has been terribly frightening to you. That your field is dealing with and resolving issues such as this may make it harder not easier.</p><p>I do not believe a professional anybody has the neutrality to evaluate their own children when the situation is emergent or unknown or frightening. They are our children, not our patients, clients or students.</p><p>I disagree with this.</p><p></p><p>This is what I think: By maintaining him in college living at home, you have a certain degree of responsibility. You refer to enmeshment. He is relying upon you to set limits in your home and as parents, conditions, a bottom line, expectations. He will not be able to decide or think his way out of this. It is not about thinking. It is something else entirely.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 681237, member: 18958"] He is depressed and addicted to cocaine that you know about, and uses marijuana to excess. You may not know the whole story. There may be more. Neither depression or addiction are conducive to "figuring it out." Both conditions can and do overcome both will and reason. I might question whether reason or logic will apply in your situation either. Giving addiction and depression "space" as in time alone or space to think or room to relax...are not helpful responses, in my experience. By their very nature addiction and depression consume and overcome. You are a mother who has a depressed and addicted young adult son. This is a situation that has been terribly frightening to you. That your field is dealing with and resolving issues such as this may make it harder not easier. I do not believe a professional anybody has the neutrality to evaluate their own children when the situation is emergent or unknown or frightening. They are our children, not our patients, clients or students. I disagree with this. This is what I think: By maintaining him in college living at home, you have a certain degree of responsibility. You refer to enmeshment. He is relying upon you to set limits in your home and as parents, conditions, a bottom line, expectations. He will not be able to decide or think his way out of this. It is not about thinking. It is something else entirely. COPA [/QUOTE]
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