Alright, I’m at a loss with this child today. Two steps forward, 3 steps back. So, after YEARS of getting in trouble/suspended from school (almost expelled) we got an IEP evaluation done, son was classified as E/I. Great. We got an IEP in place that has good supports for him and his O.D.D. – social worker meets with him twice a week, he goes to a social skills group with other kids. HOWEVER, since his behavior in the past involved either getting physical or saying inappropriate things to other kids, the school wanted an aide in his room and to stay in his eye sight. Honestly, I don’t blame them. AND since sometimes other kids wrongfully blamed him for things, I LIKED having an adult by him (the guy HAS witnessed other kids trying to set my son up and has saved him from trouble). I see it from my son’s side though: he’s 11. Its embarrassing to have this guy by him. I get that. But, his behavior got us into this boat. I keep trying to explain, if he wants it to go away, then he needs to work hard and we need to make the changes needed to have this guy go away. But until we know that our son can be safe/successful AND the kids AROUND HIM can be safe/successful – this needs to stay. I hope we can ditch this part of the IEP at next year’s review, but he needs to step up. Now, our son is HIDING from the aide. He’s trying to get away from the guy. I don’t know if its because he wants to go off and do something he shouldn’t (possible) or that he’s embarrassed (more probable) but I can’t seem to get it through to him that this needs to stop. I talk and talk and talk. I’ve grounded. I’ve tried positive reinforcement. We’ve tried rewards systems. Points/prizes….AHHHHH!!! I cannot find anything that works! He goes to therapy every other week also. He is on Vyvansse for his ADHD, which seems to help some with impulse control but he’s just so defiant (he is diagnosed with O.D.D.) EVERYONE is working together and its just not working out. Anyone tried anything with an O.D.D. kid (or a really stubborn one) that’s been somewhat successful??