exhausted
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So as I posted earlier my daughter who is in a foster home and getting intensive day-treatment (DBT) ran last week from the home. We have been worried about the placement from the start. We were told by DCFS that they would put her in a therapeutic home. As things went along, I realized there was no way this was a therpeutic home. This single parent, older lady, didn't get home from work until over an hour after my daughter got home from treatment center and would go out with her boyfriend and leave our daughter alone with another foster daughter. We had 100% supervision at our home and have never left her alone since even before her residential stay because we knew she would use marijuana or run off. We could not even keep her from running as she would leave school.
So when she returned they drug tested her and she came up positive for coccaine. TO our knowledge, and all the drug testing we have done for the past 2 years, she has never come up with anything but pot. She has a story of course but either way she put herself in a very dangerous situation with older people. She told us she passed out-she could have been raped yet again!! I am so scared.
I have been putting major pressure on case worker and everyone else to get her in a secure setting. That is what we believed she needed when we started this thing. But as you know, the state holds onto it's funds and cries "least restrictive environment"!
Now I learn she did not violate any court orders because the only orders were to place her in temporary state custody and finish service hours! We had to transfer judges and her old PO is not even her PO. In fact, she doesn't have one! They said there was nothing chargeable. Her therapist is livid and wrote a letter to the new judge (toughest in the state-yah!), our family therapist as well as myself have all written letters. I finially got the DCFS worker to fight for her safety. It looks like she will be moved to a new home with better supervision Monday(she's with us on weekend).Trust me supervision is only one issue in the home.
So we finially access what we believe to be the finest services for her, DBT treatment, and we end up with this dangerous home (foster mother drinks as well). They promise she is on the waiting list for residential-however,she may not be placed at the DBT residential if another opening comes up somewhere else quicker. OMG,DBT is why we did what we did.
How can I get this worker to understand mental illness and substance abuse? I've given her every report and brought our family therapist to team meetings and stil... I really think my difficult child has an addiction to sexually acting out as well. I spent all week calling people, and following up. difficult child has no regard for her own safety. Whose hands will her blood be on? The only committment we got from difficult child was that she would not run until her court date on April 11th. And why wouldn't she? There are no consequences for her behavior? Frustrated and scared to death.
So when she returned they drug tested her and she came up positive for coccaine. TO our knowledge, and all the drug testing we have done for the past 2 years, she has never come up with anything but pot. She has a story of course but either way she put herself in a very dangerous situation with older people. She told us she passed out-she could have been raped yet again!! I am so scared.
I have been putting major pressure on case worker and everyone else to get her in a secure setting. That is what we believed she needed when we started this thing. But as you know, the state holds onto it's funds and cries "least restrictive environment"!
Now I learn she did not violate any court orders because the only orders were to place her in temporary state custody and finish service hours! We had to transfer judges and her old PO is not even her PO. In fact, she doesn't have one! They said there was nothing chargeable. Her therapist is livid and wrote a letter to the new judge (toughest in the state-yah!), our family therapist as well as myself have all written letters. I finially got the DCFS worker to fight for her safety. It looks like she will be moved to a new home with better supervision Monday(she's with us on weekend).Trust me supervision is only one issue in the home.
So we finially access what we believe to be the finest services for her, DBT treatment, and we end up with this dangerous home (foster mother drinks as well). They promise she is on the waiting list for residential-however,she may not be placed at the DBT residential if another opening comes up somewhere else quicker. OMG,DBT is why we did what we did.
How can I get this worker to understand mental illness and substance abuse? I've given her every report and brought our family therapist to team meetings and stil... I really think my difficult child has an addiction to sexually acting out as well. I spent all week calling people, and following up. difficult child has no regard for her own safety. Whose hands will her blood be on? The only committment we got from difficult child was that she would not run until her court date on April 11th. And why wouldn't she? There are no consequences for her behavior? Frustrated and scared to death.
