My oldest will be 18 and graduating high school soon. We signed papers to volunteerly surrender her to CYS at the beginning of the month.
Been having issues with her since she was 12. At that time she was diagnosed with PPMS (which is psychotic behavior once a month). She refused to go to therapy appointments or take her medication, so I gave up. For a long time I could keep her episodes at bay by saying "stop it or you're going back to therapy and going back on medications." It worked like a dream.
She had no after high school plans of college or jobs, nothing. So we told her that if she doesn't have an after high school goal, she is out of the house as soon as she graduates. This was supposed to make her think about her future and set goals. Instead she went to school, complained to a teacher that we were so mean, and a CYS investigation was started. It was unfounded, have the letters to prove all her claims are unfounded, but they are still in our lives and now trying to take our other two children.
The oldest's history include sneaking out of the house at night to have sex with strangers she met on the internet- that started at 14. Drug and cigarette use. Shop lifting. Truancy from school. Going to school on the bus then leaving to spend the day doing who knows what, to ride the bus home. And flat out refusal to go at all.
So when she went after her little brother with a knife during one of her PPMS moments, her father stopped her by putting his hand up to prevent the chase. His hands were dirty from work (he gets filthy at his job). She took pictures, called CYS, claimed the dirt marks were bruises. CYS got here and there were no marks as they washed off. I asked them to take her as I can't handle it anymore.
Now she is spreading lies around school about how she was beaten daily at home and telling CYS that she fears for the safety of her siblings. She was the threat in the house.
Her siblings want nothing to do with her. Even at school they ignore her. Within a few hours of her leaving, her sister who she shared a bedroom with, had all of her things packed up and sitting by the front door.
I know it's CYS's job to believe the kid, but there has to be something we can do. The problem child is now living in foster care. We have a court date coming up.
I just got documents that CYS plans to take custody of the other two younger children. I showed them the paperwork and they both said "oh hell no!"
Can anyone relate or offer advice? I have a lawyer but it would be nice to hear from other families who have gone thru something similar.
Been having issues with her since she was 12. At that time she was diagnosed with PPMS (which is psychotic behavior once a month). She refused to go to therapy appointments or take her medication, so I gave up. For a long time I could keep her episodes at bay by saying "stop it or you're going back to therapy and going back on medications." It worked like a dream.
She had no after high school plans of college or jobs, nothing. So we told her that if she doesn't have an after high school goal, she is out of the house as soon as she graduates. This was supposed to make her think about her future and set goals. Instead she went to school, complained to a teacher that we were so mean, and a CYS investigation was started. It was unfounded, have the letters to prove all her claims are unfounded, but they are still in our lives and now trying to take our other two children.
The oldest's history include sneaking out of the house at night to have sex with strangers she met on the internet- that started at 14. Drug and cigarette use. Shop lifting. Truancy from school. Going to school on the bus then leaving to spend the day doing who knows what, to ride the bus home. And flat out refusal to go at all.
So when she went after her little brother with a knife during one of her PPMS moments, her father stopped her by putting his hand up to prevent the chase. His hands were dirty from work (he gets filthy at his job). She took pictures, called CYS, claimed the dirt marks were bruises. CYS got here and there were no marks as they washed off. I asked them to take her as I can't handle it anymore.
Now she is spreading lies around school about how she was beaten daily at home and telling CYS that she fears for the safety of her siblings. She was the threat in the house.
Her siblings want nothing to do with her. Even at school they ignore her. Within a few hours of her leaving, her sister who she shared a bedroom with, had all of her things packed up and sitting by the front door.
I know it's CYS's job to believe the kid, but there has to be something we can do. The problem child is now living in foster care. We have a court date coming up.
I just got documents that CYS plans to take custody of the other two younger children. I showed them the paperwork and they both said "oh hell no!"
Can anyone relate or offer advice? I have a lawyer but it would be nice to hear from other families who have gone thru something similar.