Sneaking Suspicion

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by dstc_99, Oct 17, 2014.

  1. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    I have a sneaking suspicion that difficult child either quit her job or got fired. Option 3 would be that since she wrote up someone for sexual harassment they are just not going to give her hours and wait until she quits. She is on day three of no work. The first day she went in and they said they didn't have enough work and sent her home. The second day suposedly was a day no one worked? Today husband told me she called and they said they didn't need her.

    I don't know she works for a temp agency basically so they can hire and fire at will without notice. I am personally hoping they are either in a slow spell or that they are punishing her for the write up. I know that is legally wrong but I don't want her to quit until she has another job and I don't want her fired either. This would be her first real job and I want her to learn from it. Even if learning from it means that life isn't always fair. She has that difficult child sense of entitlement and thinks that if she says something about the harassment that the individual will be fired on the spot. Sometimes they will but if it is a first offense, not severe, and the worker is a good worker most businesses are going to try to fix the problem first.

    Anyway I guess I will have to keep an eye out for further signs and pray she gets another job soon to replace this one.
  2. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    I feel you. Of course, I know mine quit and actually had a reason...but that was Monday. He's been lazing around all week. I just woke him and told him, "I'm on vacation, you are unemployed, there is a difference." He complained of having nothing to do...I told him he has - he can go look for work! "Adults in this house work."

    So we're about to go to the home improvement store and hopefully he'll take a shower - he hasn't had one since Sunday. Jeeze Louise I'm tired of laziness.
  3. wakeupcall

    wakeupcall Well-Known Member

    My difficult child is on his second job, minimum wage of course. Now says he's going to quit because they say he has to work on his birthday!!! What??? Really?? Good grief, it took him forever to get a job in the first place...
  4. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Thank god mine likes to be clean that is one thing I can't stand is dirty. I would hose her down if I had too. LOL

    Yep I am guessing we are going to be dealing with the same kind of excuses. From what she has said her complaint appears to be that the guys creep her out. If that is her sexual harassment claim I can see why nothing was done. I dont think anyone has actually done anything other than maybe call her baby or something like that. No out and out harassment. But for her it will be plenty of reason to just quit and laze around.
  5. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    Amazing how little most difficult children want to work. I have to say, I'm glad that this was such a no-brainer in my house that even 36 got a job.And Julie worked at Walmart the entire time she used drugs, although I have no idea how she kept the job. She claimed she used most of the money for drugs, but at least s he wasn't getting that money for drugs from us (shrug).

    Seems like there is always one excuse or another why most difficult children won't or can't work even the most basic job.

    It's hard to prove sexual harassment and win as it is "he said/she said." When I worked at a newspaper, my immediate supervisor harassed most of the women and made obnoxious comments about women in general in a loud voice and had an affair with a young woman (he was married, poor wife). He was accused of harassment twice and he neither got fired nor got into trouble. In fact, both woman were given a hard time. He got a promotion. The "good ole boys" club was in high gear there. I think he is still there.

    I hope everything works out well. If Daughter is working for a temp agency, there should be other jobs she can take. Good luck!!!! :)
  6. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    I got the "it's a long story" answer when I asked her tonight. She swears she will explain later.

    I'm guessing that means she quit.

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  7. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    I have to say, when I worked at this place, this upper management guy stroked my leg up and down, I was in complete shock. I told my manager, and he got into MAJOR trouble. When I say MAJOR, I mean major. Even I was shocked at how seriously they took it. I left the job because it got too intense. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't in he trouble or anything but he was in it deep and I couldn't bare to watch it anymore. A whole team from corporate flew out. It can not be the first time this guy was reported if they were reacting like THIS. I think I was the straw that broke the camels back.

    P.s. I was just a temp at a telemarketing place.
    Last edited: Oct 17, 2014
  8. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    Looking back on it, I could have won a law suite. But seriously, even if I could, I wasn't going to sue. Only if it persisted and nothing was done about it.
  9. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Oh trust me if someone touched her or made her feel uncomfortable with inappropriate comments I am all good with her turning them in. If she quit because it I'm fine with that too.

    On the other hand if it was just some creepy guys then what more can you expect when you work a job where they hire illegal immigrants. I tried to tell her anyplace that hired and fired daily wasn't the place to start a long time career. Plus it was a 30 mile commute. I told her to keep applying and looking just in case.

    Notice I said the words I. That would be why it got ignored. Lol

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  10. GuideMe

    GuideMe Active Member

    Lmao, i know that's right!
  11. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Finals word is she wrote a guy up a month and a half ago. Nothing got done. Then Monday he grabbed her butt. She wrote him up again. Tuesday they put her leave during the investigation.

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  12. Scent of Cedar *

    Scent of Cedar * Well-Known Member

    That makes sense.

    I feel badly for difficult child.

    Is she looking for work elsewhere? If I were young and without training, I would work at a house cleaning or landscaping service and then, once I understood how it all worked, I would start my own business.

    Have I suggested this to my own kids?


    Have they listened?



  13. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Lol. Apparently the UPS people told her to go home. They aren't her employer but it is their facility. So she left and called Manpower during the drive home. They told her since she left without notifying them before leaving that she had walked off the job.

    Great loophole she is stuck in. The building owners told her to leave so she had no choice and her Manpower manager was there. But Manpower is not standing behind her.

    Either way she is looking again.
  14. SuZir

    SuZir Well-Known Member

    Well, another learning opportunity to her. Glad it was something like this and not her simply bailing out of job or behaving badly.

    In reality it really hoovers how temp agencies and many other employers who hire people for badly paid and lower level positions treat their (often young, inexperienced or in bad position in life) employees. It wouldn't hurt their bottom line _that much_ to show some common decency and respect. I wonder how they have the nerve to demand respect for them and work from their employees.... (*Sorry, old socialist getting down from the horse*)

    Hope she finds something else soon. And decides, that these are not the jobs she wants to be stuck for the long term.