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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760977" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am so very sorry helpless.</p><p></p><p>This is the thing:</p><p></p><p>Your son is like mine. He wants help. He wants support. He wants a comfortable place to live, to be sheltered and protected. But he wants to carry on living as he is. Your son wants to smoke weed and use whatever drug he wants. He wants to break the law. He does not care. He wants to be a little bad guy. This is what he wants. The changing comes from us.</p><p></p><p>We can give houses. We can give support. We can give love and kindness and guidance. IT DOES NOT MATTER what kind of opportunities and chances they get to do right. They don't want to if they don't want to. They want to continue to do what they want to do.</p><p></p><p>Oh yes. They want what we can give them, too. But that does not mean that they buy in to what we want for them. Not one little bit. Not unless THEY have decided to change. And I truly believe that for them to change they have to buy into a long program like RN's son did.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying to not help him, although I must say, I think he's done very well on his own, and I don't think he needs your help. I am saying that he will not change, just because he is comfortable and safe. Oh yes. He does view it as a opportunity. But not an opportunity to go straight. He sees it from his point of view. An opportunity to be comfortable doing what he wants to do. And he wants to be a criminal, at least for now.</p><p></p><p>I know a woman whose son was dealing drugs from her house. The police (a serious gang and drug squad) busted her door down held her at gunpoint to her head on the floor. Threatened to kill her dog. They found thousands of dollars of drugs in her wall. She did a job involved with criminal justice similar to what I did for many years. They put her in jail. They indicted the mother on the same (terrible) charges as they did the son, saying she was a co-conspirator. She had to fight with attorneys over many months to keep her job. But more than this she was crushed and humiliated and traumatized.</p><p></p><p>This is what these kids can do. If his father is smart, he'll make him leave. I am sorry, but this is how I believe. I like your son and I believe he has great potential WHEN HE DECIDES TO DO WHAT'S RIGHT. I see no indication at all he wants to change in the near future. I only see that you want him to change, with all of your heart and soul. I know what it is like because I am you.</p><p></p><p>Your son thinks everybody is stupid except him. Only life can teach him he's wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760977, member: 18958"] I am so very sorry helpless. This is the thing: Your son is like mine. He wants help. He wants support. He wants a comfortable place to live, to be sheltered and protected. But he wants to carry on living as he is. Your son wants to smoke weed and use whatever drug he wants. He wants to break the law. He does not care. He wants to be a little bad guy. This is what he wants. The changing comes from us. We can give houses. We can give support. We can give love and kindness and guidance. IT DOES NOT MATTER what kind of opportunities and chances they get to do right. They don't want to if they don't want to. They want to continue to do what they want to do. Oh yes. They want what we can give them, too. But that does not mean that they buy in to what we want for them. Not one little bit. Not unless THEY have decided to change. And I truly believe that for them to change they have to buy into a long program like RN's son did. I am not saying to not help him, although I must say, I think he's done very well on his own, and I don't think he needs your help. I am saying that he will not change, just because he is comfortable and safe. Oh yes. He does view it as a opportunity. But not an opportunity to go straight. He sees it from his point of view. An opportunity to be comfortable doing what he wants to do. And he wants to be a criminal, at least for now. I know a woman whose son was dealing drugs from her house. The police (a serious gang and drug squad) busted her door down held her at gunpoint to her head on the floor. Threatened to kill her dog. They found thousands of dollars of drugs in her wall. She did a job involved with criminal justice similar to what I did for many years. They put her in jail. They indicted the mother on the same (terrible) charges as they did the son, saying she was a co-conspirator. She had to fight with attorneys over many months to keep her job. But more than this she was crushed and humiliated and traumatized. This is what these kids can do. If his father is smart, he'll make him leave. I am sorry, but this is how I believe. I like your son and I believe he has great potential WHEN HE DECIDES TO DO WHAT'S RIGHT. I see no indication at all he wants to change in the near future. I only see that you want him to change, with all of your heart and soul. I know what it is like because I am you. Your son thinks everybody is stupid except him. Only life can teach him he's wrong. [/QUOTE]
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