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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 762378" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>None of us was a perfect parent. I whack myself over the head too. I adopted a very vulnerable baby, as a single Mom. I did not anticipate how it would feel to be isolated and alone with him and I fault myself for taking him too early to nursery school.</p><p></p><p>Oh. There were practical reasons I had to do it, but if I had only thought of him, I would have stayed with him full-time. This is painful. But I cannot change the past. Just accept it.</p><p></p><p>The hardest but the best thing I ever did as a parent was to finally detach. It took me years and years. We can't go back helpless, but we can go forward responsibly and give them what they need as adults. And what they need is the full impact of the consequences of their life choices.</p><p></p><p>I miss my son terribly, but I am responsible to deal with my own pain, loneliness, regret, and sadness. And I have the hope that in the future he will choose to live differently. But meanwhile, I am able to live better, free of the chaos that came from hanging on to the illusion that his choices were somehow mine to make, and that I could change them. I can't. You can't either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 762378, member: 18958"] None of us was a perfect parent. I whack myself over the head too. I adopted a very vulnerable baby, as a single Mom. I did not anticipate how it would feel to be isolated and alone with him and I fault myself for taking him too early to nursery school. Oh. There were practical reasons I had to do it, but if I had only thought of him, I would have stayed with him full-time. This is painful. But I cannot change the past. Just accept it. The hardest but the best thing I ever did as a parent was to finally detach. It took me years and years. We can't go back helpless, but we can go forward responsibly and give them what they need as adults. And what they need is the full impact of the consequences of their life choices. I miss my son terribly, but I am responsible to deal with my own pain, loneliness, regret, and sadness. And I have the hope that in the future he will choose to live differently. But meanwhile, I am able to live better, free of the chaos that came from hanging on to the illusion that his choices were somehow mine to make, and that I could change them. I can't. You can't either. [/QUOTE]
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