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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 748892" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Poppy, I am so sorry you are experiencing this sudden breakdown. My son was diagnosed bi-polar and was inpatient for a month as an adolescent. He refused to take the medications, ever. There were some tense times, but we made it through. He is now very successful, happily married, talented, and 45 years wise. There is hope. </p><p></p><p>That said, it is my 40 year old daughter who I am presently detached. Try as I might, I could never find the right response to avoid a tirade of horrific verbal abuse, manic and depressive behaviors, behaviors suggestive of borderline personality disorder, manipulation for thousands upon thousands of dollars, and her alcoholic liver disease. Much has transpired over the last 12 years when she moved to Las Vegas. She was in two abusive relationships with very wealthy men, the last one for 5 years. Has your son developed any new friends? </p><p></p><p>It took me a long time to realize all I was doing to "help" her was only crippling her more. It's not easy to be estranged, another story on that for another day. But, at some point I had to accept that if she is not willing to get help (and it's been offered by many, many times, one hospitalization for detox from alcohol), nothing any of us do will matter. My daughter doesn't work, because she is too sick, I don't think she has many sober moments. I don't know how she gets Adderall and Xanax, because she has never had an official mental health diagnosis other than alcoholic. my daughter gets really mean when she is misusing the prescriptions. Could that be possible with your son? </p><p></p><p>I try to read as much as I can about how to help if and when that time comes. It breaks my heart, it is breaking your heart. I, and so many others here, know what that is like. The unknown is scary and our mind can imagine all sorts of untrue things. Staying mired down in a deep, dark place will not change the outcome for our child. My best friend shared a message of hope on a daily calendar because she knew I was having a difficult time in response to a recent event. It's based on scripture, but it can help anyone. It's about peace trying to land in our life, but when our mind is in utter chaos, peace can only hover, waiting. First we have to release what we can't change. Then, and only then can peace reside in us and help us make healthy decisions. </p><p></p><p>I agree with all of the responses you have gotten. I gain strength knowing I am not alone. I hope you do to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 748892, member: 23811"] Poppy, I am so sorry you are experiencing this sudden breakdown. My son was diagnosed bi-polar and was inpatient for a month as an adolescent. He refused to take the medications, ever. There were some tense times, but we made it through. He is now very successful, happily married, talented, and 45 years wise. There is hope. That said, it is my 40 year old daughter who I am presently detached. Try as I might, I could never find the right response to avoid a tirade of horrific verbal abuse, manic and depressive behaviors, behaviors suggestive of borderline personality disorder, manipulation for thousands upon thousands of dollars, and her alcoholic liver disease. Much has transpired over the last 12 years when she moved to Las Vegas. She was in two abusive relationships with very wealthy men, the last one for 5 years. Has your son developed any new friends? It took me a long time to realize all I was doing to "help" her was only crippling her more. It's not easy to be estranged, another story on that for another day. But, at some point I had to accept that if she is not willing to get help (and it's been offered by many, many times, one hospitalization for detox from alcohol), nothing any of us do will matter. My daughter doesn't work, because she is too sick, I don't think she has many sober moments. I don't know how she gets Adderall and Xanax, because she has never had an official mental health diagnosis other than alcoholic. my daughter gets really mean when she is misusing the prescriptions. Could that be possible with your son? I try to read as much as I can about how to help if and when that time comes. It breaks my heart, it is breaking your heart. I, and so many others here, know what that is like. The unknown is scary and our mind can imagine all sorts of untrue things. Staying mired down in a deep, dark place will not change the outcome for our child. My best friend shared a message of hope on a daily calendar because she knew I was having a difficult time in response to a recent event. It's based on scripture, but it can help anyone. It's about peace trying to land in our life, but when our mind is in utter chaos, peace can only hover, waiting. First we have to release what we can't change. Then, and only then can peace reside in us and help us make healthy decisions. I agree with all of the responses you have gotten. I gain strength knowing I am not alone. I hope you do to. [/QUOTE]
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