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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760778" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Maybe your husband feels like he needs to counterbalance your susceptibility to your feelings--because son is manipulating and hurting you.</p><p></p><p>I think it's cruel of your son, what he's doing to you. He is telling you that you have no right to have any comfort and security in life--if you don't give it to him according to the rules he makes. </p><p></p><p>His rules are--support and help him no matter what he does, what the consequences, and who he hurts. Your welfare and you family's welfare mean nothing to him. His legal obligations mean nothing to him. </p><p></p><p>Helpless. I think he's playing on deep-seated feelings of guilt you have. Maybe because in the past, you've chosen for yourself, and your young family--and not for him. </p><p></p><p>The thing is, there is nothing we can do about the past. Over-compensating now does not change the past. </p><p></p><p>Your son is now an adult. Nothing that any of us do now, for these adult children, can reach back to remedy past choices.</p><p></p><p>I am like you. I have lots of guilt about my own choices about past relationships. No matter how much I bend over backward and put myself on the line--I can't change the past, nor should I try. Our best hope is to do the right thing now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760778, member: 18958"] Maybe your husband feels like he needs to counterbalance your susceptibility to your feelings--because son is manipulating and hurting you. I think it's cruel of your son, what he's doing to you. He is telling you that you have no right to have any comfort and security in life--if you don't give it to him according to the rules he makes. His rules are--support and help him no matter what he does, what the consequences, and who he hurts. Your welfare and you family's welfare mean nothing to him. His legal obligations mean nothing to him. Helpless. I think he's playing on deep-seated feelings of guilt you have. Maybe because in the past, you've chosen for yourself, and your young family--and not for him. The thing is, there is nothing we can do about the past. Over-compensating now does not change the past. Your son is now an adult. Nothing that any of us do now, for these adult children, can reach back to remedy past choices. I am like you. I have lots of guilt about my own choices about past relationships. No matter how much I bend over backward and put myself on the line--I can't change the past, nor should I try. Our best hope is to do the right thing now. [/QUOTE]
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