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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 760781" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Helpless, I certainly don't have all the answers and still deal with a lot of the same things you do. What I'm coming to terms with is that I have to figure out what's "broken" within me that can't stand to see my adult sons suffer any discomfort be it hunger, homelessness, joblessness, depression, addiction, mental illness etc. without feeling "I" must save the day, "I" must rescue, I, I, I.</p><p></p><p>What's broken in "me" not them. Yes, they're broken too but I can't change that. They have to do the hard work to get better and part of our pain is wanting them to get well and be happy and successful "right now" so we don't have to hurt for them.</p><p></p><p>I'm determined to figure out what is it in me that has to be fixed (or maybe not so much fixed, but realized and dealt with compassionately for myself) so that I can allow them the dignity to experience life on life's terms just like I have to.</p><p></p><p>I've recently started listening to Tara Brach (who is fabulous). She has some books but you can also find her on Youtube giving talks. She's soothing and full of so much wisdom. I wish she could be my therapist because I know I'd be well in no time! </p><p></p><p>One day at a time...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 760781, member: 23405"] Helpless, I certainly don't have all the answers and still deal with a lot of the same things you do. What I'm coming to terms with is that I have to figure out what's "broken" within me that can't stand to see my adult sons suffer any discomfort be it hunger, homelessness, joblessness, depression, addiction, mental illness etc. without feeling "I" must save the day, "I" must rescue, I, I, I. What's broken in "me" not them. Yes, they're broken too but I can't change that. They have to do the hard work to get better and part of our pain is wanting them to get well and be happy and successful "right now" so we don't have to hurt for them. I'm determined to figure out what is it in me that has to be fixed (or maybe not so much fixed, but realized and dealt with compassionately for myself) so that I can allow them the dignity to experience life on life's terms just like I have to. I've recently started listening to Tara Brach (who is fabulous). She has some books but you can also find her on Youtube giving talks. She's soothing and full of so much wisdom. I wish she could be my therapist because I know I'd be well in no time! One day at a time... [/QUOTE]
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