Sunshineaftertherain
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Hi all...sorry I havent been active for a long while...was just crazy in my life!!!
So my son is now turning 16!
Currently his diagnosis is: Asoergers ( psychologist feels strongly about this, psychiatrist says he has some simptoms), ADD, possible Bipolar.
I am really wery owerwhelmed by his terrible meltdowns...he is n VERY big boy, with a LOUD voice!
Often when we ask him to do his homework, he doesnt want to, dont see the reason why ( we had him tested, he has high IQ,no learning disabillities, poor executive functioning and gives up easily)...we are willing to sit with him and help him, but he gets terribly anoid...
When he doesnt get his way ( like wanting a new game, or playing on computer or wifi), he starts escalating, screaming, being verbally abusive, threatening us, shrowing things, and so on. We are all being hold captive by his behaviour....we have strong structure in place, with consequences for this behavior, he looses screan time....after this meltdowns, he says he is sorry, he loves us , but he then doesnt understand how bad this effects our relationships....but when he gets like this it doesnt help to try and reason with him.....My question is...how can we prevent this uitbursts....what can we do differently, because he needs to do his homework.....and cant and sit and play games the whole day...
Thanx
So my son is now turning 16!
Currently his diagnosis is: Asoergers ( psychologist feels strongly about this, psychiatrist says he has some simptoms), ADD, possible Bipolar.
I am really wery owerwhelmed by his terrible meltdowns...he is n VERY big boy, with a LOUD voice!
Often when we ask him to do his homework, he doesnt want to, dont see the reason why ( we had him tested, he has high IQ,no learning disabillities, poor executive functioning and gives up easily)...we are willing to sit with him and help him, but he gets terribly anoid...
When he doesnt get his way ( like wanting a new game, or playing on computer or wifi), he starts escalating, screaming, being verbally abusive, threatening us, shrowing things, and so on. We are all being hold captive by his behaviour....we have strong structure in place, with consequences for this behavior, he looses screan time....after this meltdowns, he says he is sorry, he loves us , but he then doesnt understand how bad this effects our relationships....but when he gets like this it doesnt help to try and reason with him.....My question is...how can we prevent this uitbursts....what can we do differently, because he needs to do his homework.....and cant and sit and play games the whole day...
Thanx