Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Teetering on the edge
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="C Han" data-source="post: 760429" data-attributes="member: 27504"><p>Where to start? This is my first post, and I’m hoping that by finding from this venue some sort of hope. here goes. My only son, an only child, is 31. He Is an alcoholic, and I’m at the end of my rope worrying about him, imploring change. He is a college graduate with a great job. He told me some time back that he has been a beer drinker his entire adult life. I mean, like a 12 pack to case of beer a night. After a breakup with his college girlfriend of 6 years - because he couldn’t stop drinking, he got a DWI. During that time, we learned that he also suffered from anxiety and depression, and at my insistence, he went to rehab for 90 days. He is currently in medication as well. He says he is still taking it. </p><p>In rehab, he met a girl with bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, and they moved in together. (Great) Ugh. She never held a job, but spent every dime he had, including his 401K, and since she has major health issues, he MARRIED her so that she could have health insurance. Fast forward one year, he got arrested for domestic violence, because he hit her during one of their fights. I am not making this stuff up. Two weeks later, he called me from jail, he got a second DWI, and I refused to bail him out. He bailed himself out and today is facing two DWI charges, because of COVID, has not had a court date. The domestic charge is pending as well.</p><p>son moves out of the house he shared with friend, and lived with a couple friend of his for about a month. He has been making arrangements to move in with an older lady that needs money from a roommate, but warning signs are going off in my head that this is not a good idea.</p><p>He will not acknowledge that he has a problem!! I call him on Sundays to check in, he lives about 3 hours away. Yesterday I asked him if he was drinking he answered yes, and hung up on me. I asked him how bloody he had to get from banging his head on the wall before he realized that what he’s doing ISN‘T WORKING???</p><p>I‘m trying to wrap my head around the inevitable-homelessness, job loss, possible bankruptcy. He’s in a place where not one thing in his life is going right. People commit suicide over these types of things, and I’m preparing myself for THAT call. Nothing that I say, nothing that I offer by way of helping (calling creditors, helping move belongings to storage) is taken up. It seems he is hellbent on destroying himself, and I can only watch. I refuse to enable him. I am at a loss as to how to reach him. He blasts me when I say anything encouraging or optimistic. He is certain that he is a victim, and none of this is a result of his continual bad decisions. I’m at the place where I am not sure what to do. Do I walk away silently and let him continue, or send an email and say I’m here when you’re ready to get help? What do I do with this insanity??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C Han, post: 760429, member: 27504"] Where to start? This is my first post, and I’m hoping that by finding from this venue some sort of hope. here goes. My only son, an only child, is 31. He Is an alcoholic, and I’m at the end of my rope worrying about him, imploring change. He is a college graduate with a great job. He told me some time back that he has been a beer drinker his entire adult life. I mean, like a 12 pack to case of beer a night. After a breakup with his college girlfriend of 6 years - because he couldn’t stop drinking, he got a DWI. During that time, we learned that he also suffered from anxiety and depression, and at my insistence, he went to rehab for 90 days. He is currently in medication as well. He says he is still taking it. In rehab, he met a girl with bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, and they moved in together. (Great) Ugh. She never held a job, but spent every dime he had, including his 401K, and since she has major health issues, he MARRIED her so that she could have health insurance. Fast forward one year, he got arrested for domestic violence, because he hit her during one of their fights. I am not making this stuff up. Two weeks later, he called me from jail, he got a second DWI, and I refused to bail him out. He bailed himself out and today is facing two DWI charges, because of COVID, has not had a court date. The domestic charge is pending as well. son moves out of the house he shared with friend, and lived with a couple friend of his for about a month. He has been making arrangements to move in with an older lady that needs money from a roommate, but warning signs are going off in my head that this is not a good idea. He will not acknowledge that he has a problem!! I call him on Sundays to check in, he lives about 3 hours away. Yesterday I asked him if he was drinking he answered yes, and hung up on me. I asked him how bloody he had to get from banging his head on the wall before he realized that what he’s doing ISN‘T WORKING??? I‘m trying to wrap my head around the inevitable-homelessness, job loss, possible bankruptcy. He’s in a place where not one thing in his life is going right. People commit suicide over these types of things, and I’m preparing myself for THAT call. Nothing that I say, nothing that I offer by way of helping (calling creditors, helping move belongings to storage) is taken up. It seems he is hellbent on destroying himself, and I can only watch. I refuse to enable him. I am at a loss as to how to reach him. He blasts me when I say anything encouraging or optimistic. He is certain that he is a victim, and none of this is a result of his continual bad decisions. I’m at the place where I am not sure what to do. Do I walk away silently and let him continue, or send an email and say I’m here when you’re ready to get help? What do I do with this insanity?? [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Teetering on the edge
Top