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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 760433" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Welcome CHan:</p><p>So sorry that you find yourself here and feeling so helpless but you have come to the right place, if for nothing else but to feel no judgement and support from others who understand your pain first hand. BusyMember touched on a lot of good suggestions for you. </p><p></p><p>I too lived with an alcoholic for 30 yrs. until I divorced him. He nearly died several times because of his alcoholism and it destroyed every fiber of our family and marriage. That did not change him. It was only when he was told for the 3rd time after almost dying that if he took one more drop of alcohol he'd be dead. He is sober going on 1 1/2 yrs. now but the damage he left behind is like a hurricane that destroys everything in it's path. </p><p></p><p>Please remember that we too get "sick" from living with an alcoholic. We are rescuers and enablers. It doesn't start out like a bad thing but we will do anything to glue the pieces back together so it all looks normal but in the meantime we neglect ourselves and find out years later that we have unraveled like a ball of yarn and we don't even know where our alcoholic begins and we end.</p><p></p><p>In our area the Al anon meetings will be starting up in July. Those meetings along with my therapist and good support and my faith and trust in God are what got me through it all. It is a process and no one graduates from Alanon but we try day by day to focus on ourselves and heal the brokenness and we learn that we will not likely be the ones to get our loved ones sober. It is their journey but a painful one for us to be a part of. That's why you need good support because it's YOU who will have to change. While doing that you can only hope that your son finds his "bottom" so he can start climbing up but that may take years.</p><p></p><p>Stay with us and share and and read others posts. I guarantee you will find care and support here.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 760433, member: 23405"] Welcome CHan: So sorry that you find yourself here and feeling so helpless but you have come to the right place, if for nothing else but to feel no judgement and support from others who understand your pain first hand. BusyMember touched on a lot of good suggestions for you. I too lived with an alcoholic for 30 yrs. until I divorced him. He nearly died several times because of his alcoholism and it destroyed every fiber of our family and marriage. That did not change him. It was only when he was told for the 3rd time after almost dying that if he took one more drop of alcohol he'd be dead. He is sober going on 1 1/2 yrs. now but the damage he left behind is like a hurricane that destroys everything in it's path. Please remember that we too get "sick" from living with an alcoholic. We are rescuers and enablers. It doesn't start out like a bad thing but we will do anything to glue the pieces back together so it all looks normal but in the meantime we neglect ourselves and find out years later that we have unraveled like a ball of yarn and we don't even know where our alcoholic begins and we end. In our area the Al anon meetings will be starting up in July. Those meetings along with my therapist and good support and my faith and trust in God are what got me through it all. It is a process and no one graduates from Alanon but we try day by day to focus on ourselves and heal the brokenness and we learn that we will not likely be the ones to get our loved ones sober. It is their journey but a painful one for us to be a part of. That's why you need good support because it's YOU who will have to change. While doing that you can only hope that your son finds his "bottom" so he can start climbing up but that may take years. Stay with us and share and and read others posts. I guarantee you will find care and support here. Sending hugs. [/QUOTE]
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