agingrapidly
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Hi all:
I just needed a place to "cry." In August I posted that we were sending our son back to school after he was on medical leave for major depressive disorder for two years (and also smoking lots of pot during that time unbeknownst to us). We set him up with a therapist and psychiatrist, went out to visit him each month, and everything seemed to be fine. We found out he had an episode in October and stopped going to class. He is withdrawing from 6 units and hopefully can salvage 9 units (too many units I thought in the first place). The bigger issue is that he was lying us, acting like everything was going great. He even had us sign a leas for five months for the second semester. We only knew things were going badly because he stopped returning calls for a few days. When I asked him if he was smoking pot when this happened and he said he was in October. The truth is that I don't want him to come home...I really want him to muddle through and get his degree. I also don't want him coming back to live in the house (as horrible as that sounds). If he can't or doesn't want to finish the last 17 units over a couple of semester and summer, I want him to stay where he is (it's cheaper), get a job, stay with the therapists, and we'll help him with rent.
He says that no medications help with the depression. I really do get the depression, but I don't get the lying. I really get the depression, but I don't get the pot smoking. I really don't get how he can't see how the two are related...the pot does not help the depression. Recently (about two weeks ago) he was put on the MAIO patch (which is safe).
His brother is graduating this year at 21 and applying to PhD programs and his sister is a sophomore. They are doing great. Every time I think about his situation I feel like I am in the rabbit hole.
Thank you all for listening and letting me have a safe place to just get everything off my chest to a group that can have some empathy and understanding (even if you think I am enabling )
I just needed a place to "cry." In August I posted that we were sending our son back to school after he was on medical leave for major depressive disorder for two years (and also smoking lots of pot during that time unbeknownst to us). We set him up with a therapist and psychiatrist, went out to visit him each month, and everything seemed to be fine. We found out he had an episode in October and stopped going to class. He is withdrawing from 6 units and hopefully can salvage 9 units (too many units I thought in the first place). The bigger issue is that he was lying us, acting like everything was going great. He even had us sign a leas for five months for the second semester. We only knew things were going badly because he stopped returning calls for a few days. When I asked him if he was smoking pot when this happened and he said he was in October. The truth is that I don't want him to come home...I really want him to muddle through and get his degree. I also don't want him coming back to live in the house (as horrible as that sounds). If he can't or doesn't want to finish the last 17 units over a couple of semester and summer, I want him to stay where he is (it's cheaper), get a job, stay with the therapists, and we'll help him with rent.
He says that no medications help with the depression. I really do get the depression, but I don't get the lying. I really get the depression, but I don't get the pot smoking. I really don't get how he can't see how the two are related...the pot does not help the depression. Recently (about two weeks ago) he was put on the MAIO patch (which is safe).
His brother is graduating this year at 21 and applying to PhD programs and his sister is a sophomore. They are doing great. Every time I think about his situation I feel like I am in the rabbit hole.
Thank you all for listening and letting me have a safe place to just get everything off my chest to a group that can have some empathy and understanding (even if you think I am enabling )