Forgive, yes. Get over, no. Usually, if you were treated in an insensitive way, those who did so either justified it or did not even realize you were hurt. Or didn't care. Some hard issues are acts of God. Here is my short list. I am just reflecting on this right now. Death of a loved one, especially if earlier than expected A violent crime against you or a loved one. A person who should love you not loving you, like a parent. Or someone you love very much romantically not loving you back. These can both break your heart. Being disinherited from a family member as a last kiss off to you and the other family members not expressing empathy or offering pictures and/or momentos that the person had that may mean way more to you than any money. This is something impossible to forget, and a bit hard to forgive. But it can be done. Time heals to a certain point. This however tears families apart. One last mean kick from the grave and others not being sensitive is very hard. Nothing in such a family can ever be quite the same unless the others do step in to offer hugs and comfort. One may well never want to see those people again even though you forgive them. Any degree of physical, sexual or emotional abuse from anybody. Brutal. Hard. So sad. Invalidation of what you say about yourself and your experiences. It hurts but can be understandable. Nobody else really sees or knows everything that happens in our lives. It is OUR story and only we know the details. It is frustrating when others write our story for us, but it is understandable. Still, it is hard being called a liar yet still having any relationship with the person who insists we are wrong about what we experienced. We know. So usually the relationship doesn't survive. Infidelity, I imagine. Sounds like such a betrayal from the one whom you promised to cherish to God. I cant think of any others right now. I am just musing out loud. If you want to add to the list, go ahead. If not, this was for me. I was simply thinking. No anger involved. No deep sadness. Why do people even treat others this way and not even offer an apology. The best way to overcome anything is to have a good life, a loving spouse and children who still drop over a lot as adults, fun activities and happiness. Usually people who are not treated well, work hard to end up with the best things in life. Often those who were insensitive do not end up as happy. As blessed. I believe karma is real. If people treat you badly, they will treat others badly as well. They may not even know they are doing so to you or others. They probably think they are nice. Few think they are not nice. Thanks for this place.