He called telling me he was so sick yesterday he couldn't even stand up, thought he was dehydrated and shook. He had his son. He didn't want his son to know. Bart is only 40. He has been brought to court by his ex three times as she tries to take his custody away in any way she can. She even moved and is now fighting over school. Judges won't pull kids out of school, but she uses this as a reason to go for legal custody. My son values having 50% legal custody very much. Until now Son was not losing anything. Now his Judge, because the two of them can't "compromise" (son DOES try to compromise, but she won't so he is blamed too) appointed something called a parental coordinator who has some legal power. She is the first legal professional who is blatantly siding 100% with the ex. Son feels helpless and hopeless and is afraid he will lose legal custody. Ex makes decisions for their son that he feels are inappropriate and they are. Grandson hates going to ex when he has to. But this is about my son, who loves his son more than life itself but who is difficult. He won't, claims he can't, get therapy. And when he is very sick, like yesterday, he doesn't see a doctor. At 40 he has sky high blood pressure. This does NOT run in the family. At 64, mine is still low. Maybe bio Dad? I think he already has high cholestral. He has stomach issues that are daily. He can't eat. He can't sleep. Anxiety is making him sick, like a 60 year old in bad shape. He is more hyper since this parental coordinator has been appointed. He has never taken ex to court for any sort of custody. He just wants 50/50, like it is. His lawyer told him that ex is rare and very disturbed and to expect himself to be in court until his child is eighteen. Lawyer thinks she won't stop. I agree, although I don't think his lawyer is trying very hard. Yet he is such a good lawyer that other lawyers and judges hire him. He probably tries harder for his friends. Or maybe this is all he can do. My son is a mess. Of course there is nothing I can do. And Son doesn't do what is most important...go to mental health professionals and his regular doctor. He does take his blood pressure medications. I am both very sad for my son and very exasperated and, if I am being honest, tired of him asking me to make decisions for him about how to handle ex, considering the new changes in the parenting plan. I don't want to make decisions for him, no matter how frazzled he is. I don't want to be his only support. I want out, I want out, I want out! Yet I feel badly because he didn't ask for these crazy lawsuits. So I have been close to telling him that I can no longer do this, but I can never get the words out. They seem so cold. He calls and sounds so pathetic...it rips at me. Any way, it will continue. My hope is that he can find a girlfriend to lean on for a while. I want a break and girlfriends sometimes help until they get tired of hearing about his troubles and they leave. And then back to me. And, trust me, he basically doesn't like my suggestions, but that doesn't stop him from asking me what he should do. Three other kids I have, one autistic, and not one even close to being so needy and unwilling to get help for himself. They are go getters. They seek help, and do for themselves. They ask for advice but often take it. They are much younger than Bart. They are all more well adjusted by a long shot. I hate to compare. It is impossible not to. I am angry at me for not telling him I can no longer help with the lawsuit (s). Seems too cruel. I just can't do it. Thanks for listening.