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For three months, difficult child was doing so good but i was hesitant to post an update until more time had passed but little did i know it wouldn't last. difficult child entered a forced rehab for pot smoking in mid October after he had violated probation and was in danger of staying in jail for two months. Everything was going well for the first month then his case worker did an evaluation and told him that she didn't think he needed to be there because he was not really addicted to pot and the place was not a good fit for him. From then onwards, he became restless and started bugging me to get him out of there or he would walk out. His plan was to do a one month CNA class and obtain a certificate to become a certified nurse assistant/Home health Aide while waiting to go back to school. Fearful that he would really walk out without his probation officer's consent and risk going back to jail, his lawyer and i came up with a plan. After he finished two months in rehab, i would pay for the one month class for him where he would go from 4pm to 9.30pm every day and in the morning, the lawyer would give him a job in his office where he would work from 10am to 3.30pm and i would contribute to half of the money he was paying him. We approached the Po and he agreed. difficult child left rehab the first week of December so he could enroll in the class and started work the following day. He worked had, went to class and came home. He gained weight, remained clean from pot, changed friends and reported to probation as needed. He even registered for spring semester in college. CNA class ended on 4th January, and difficult child even went to a one week clinical at a nursing home. Everybody was so proud of his progress. Then...
...one week later, he left home on Saturday evening to visit a friend and didn't come until Tuesday evening. Later on the first night, he sent me a text message to say he was sleeping at that friends house but on his face book page he posted how much he loved visiting New york. I suspect he went out of town but i am not sure. Anyway, he didn't go to work on Monday and Tuesday although he had sent a text to the lawyer wanting to take the day off. I was ****** and didn't want to pay anymore more money so he could remain at the job but the lawyer said we should give him another chance and told told him to go to work on Wednesday. Last week, he told me that instead of me paying for his college tuition he was going to apply for a private loan and he did but he needed a co-signer because he doesn't have credit and i was open to helping him out but first he had to do a drug test for me to proceed. The test came back positive for marijuana. His PO was supposed to do random drug tests but he didn't do one until a week ago and difficult child told the lawyer and i that it was negative. So he might have used after that.
Yesterday at 1.00pm he was supposedly picked up by his friend, a kid i know and love but he didn't come home last night nor did he call me to say he was not coming. His first class for the semester started today but he didn't go. When i checked the phone records i realized that he hadn't talked to the the friend who was supposed to have picked him up for two days. He is still out there. I am drained emotionally and don't know where to go from here. It is heartbreaking.
...one week later, he left home on Saturday evening to visit a friend and didn't come until Tuesday evening. Later on the first night, he sent me a text message to say he was sleeping at that friends house but on his face book page he posted how much he loved visiting New york. I suspect he went out of town but i am not sure. Anyway, he didn't go to work on Monday and Tuesday although he had sent a text to the lawyer wanting to take the day off. I was ****** and didn't want to pay anymore more money so he could remain at the job but the lawyer said we should give him another chance and told told him to go to work on Wednesday. Last week, he told me that instead of me paying for his college tuition he was going to apply for a private loan and he did but he needed a co-signer because he doesn't have credit and i was open to helping him out but first he had to do a drug test for me to proceed. The test came back positive for marijuana. His PO was supposed to do random drug tests but he didn't do one until a week ago and difficult child told the lawyer and i that it was negative. So he might have used after that.
Yesterday at 1.00pm he was supposedly picked up by his friend, a kid i know and love but he didn't come home last night nor did he call me to say he was not coming. His first class for the semester started today but he didn't go. When i checked the phone records i realized that he hadn't talked to the the friend who was supposed to have picked him up for two days. He is still out there. I am drained emotionally and don't know where to go from here. It is heartbreaking.