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<blockquote data-quote="peg2" data-source="post: 606480" data-attributes="member: 2133"><p>Yes, your son is acting that way because of a mental health disorder, but..........he needs to know you do not hate him you hate the disorder. My son was in 2 adolescent residential programs and then when he came home he wouldn't engage in any after care. When he turned 18 I let him continue tolive with me because I knew he could not survive alone; I gave him names of counselors to call but he wouldn't follow through. He verbally abused me so much I had to get the rest. order. Even then, I tried to get him help but he never followed through. Of course, he doesn't want to acknowledge he has a problem so he won't get help. I suspect mine has more than bi-polar and when my therapist met with him a few times she said she feels it is a combination of things and maybe there isn't even any medications that could help. That's depressing. These kids see reality in a different way, I guess. The manipulation is classic, you learn that quickly. I can't even have ANY CONTACT with mine because it leads to give me this, give me that.....There is no answer, you would think they would hit rock bottom, but sometimes they don't. It's been 3 1/2 years for mine, and still no positive things. If you ask him to follow the rules in your home, your asking for something he can't do. What I did was tell mine was he needs help and I can find a way for him to get it and even pay for it, but I realized he couldn't follow any rules so that was expecting too much. Offer help, give him the name of a counselor, hospital,etc. but don't let yourself be abused. </p><p>No, they are not capable of taking care of themselves without assistance but they are smart and might understand more thanyou think they do. I understand totallyhow you feel and I went through that for awhile..........but it's nothis fault he acts like that, it's the disorder talking. All you can do is pointhim toward help. It won't get better until he realizes it and I am waiting myself. </p><p>I think of what I used to live with and know it was not healthy. I believe I got cancer over 10 years of worry and turmoil.</p><p>Good luck and stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="peg2, post: 606480, member: 2133"] Yes, your son is acting that way because of a mental health disorder, but..........he needs to know you do not hate him you hate the disorder. My son was in 2 adolescent residential programs and then when he came home he wouldn't engage in any after care. When he turned 18 I let him continue tolive with me because I knew he could not survive alone; I gave him names of counselors to call but he wouldn't follow through. He verbally abused me so much I had to get the rest. order. Even then, I tried to get him help but he never followed through. Of course, he doesn't want to acknowledge he has a problem so he won't get help. I suspect mine has more than bi-polar and when my therapist met with him a few times she said she feels it is a combination of things and maybe there isn't even any medications that could help. That's depressing. These kids see reality in a different way, I guess. The manipulation is classic, you learn that quickly. I can't even have ANY CONTACT with mine because it leads to give me this, give me that.....There is no answer, you would think they would hit rock bottom, but sometimes they don't. It's been 3 1/2 years for mine, and still no positive things. If you ask him to follow the rules in your home, your asking for something he can't do. What I did was tell mine was he needs help and I can find a way for him to get it and even pay for it, but I realized he couldn't follow any rules so that was expecting too much. Offer help, give him the name of a counselor, hospital,etc. but don't let yourself be abused. No, they are not capable of taking care of themselves without assistance but they are smart and might understand more thanyou think they do. I understand totallyhow you feel and I went through that for awhile..........but it's nothis fault he acts like that, it's the disorder talking. All you can do is pointhim toward help. It won't get better until he realizes it and I am waiting myself. I think of what I used to live with and know it was not healthy. I believe I got cancer over 10 years of worry and turmoil. Good luck and stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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