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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 759940" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Trying,</p><p>Really that is such good news about the length of sobriety your son has maintained. I recall when living with an active alcoholic who tried many times to become sober and the anxiety that I still felt of wondering when he would drink again. It's hard to enjoy their sobriety because we just know relapse is possible. I agree with RN, should he relapse, he's not starting from square one. He's got some program under his belt to help him up right away, if he so choses. </p><p></p><p>What I also learned is that although the alcoholic may be sober they still have their own "defects of character" just like us. They are not made perfect when they finally overcome their addiction. Meaning, they still are who they are...for better or worst. We think when they stop that they'll all of a sudden turn into the best person in the world because we've attributed all their bad qualities to the addiction, when in fact some of it is just who they are.</p><p></p><p>If he stays with program and really sticks with it, he will likely get better and better. Think of the years he spent in his alcoholism and remember that his body is still adjusting to all the changes that sobriety brings, mental, physical and emotional and it will take time to fully get better. He's now having to learn how to cope with reality without numbing his emotions. It's a lot but don't lose faith and try to focus on yourself. Take care of yourself, nurture yourself, do something kind for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 759940, member: 23405"] Trying, Really that is such good news about the length of sobriety your son has maintained. I recall when living with an active alcoholic who tried many times to become sober and the anxiety that I still felt of wondering when he would drink again. It's hard to enjoy their sobriety because we just know relapse is possible. I agree with RN, should he relapse, he's not starting from square one. He's got some program under his belt to help him up right away, if he so choses. What I also learned is that although the alcoholic may be sober they still have their own "defects of character" just like us. They are not made perfect when they finally overcome their addiction. Meaning, they still are who they are...for better or worst. We think when they stop that they'll all of a sudden turn into the best person in the world because we've attributed all their bad qualities to the addiction, when in fact some of it is just who they are. If he stays with program and really sticks with it, he will likely get better and better. Think of the years he spent in his alcoholism and remember that his body is still adjusting to all the changes that sobriety brings, mental, physical and emotional and it will take time to fully get better. He's now having to learn how to cope with reality without numbing his emotions. It's a lot but don't lose faith and try to focus on yourself. Take care of yourself, nurture yourself, do something kind for yourself. Sending hugs. [/QUOTE]
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