Dear Helpless
I agree with RN.
First, let me say that I relate totally to what you say. That he seems to be safe and productive, and there are people who are trying to support him, is a good thing.
But. He truly, truly blew it with you and your sister. That was completely out of the question in terms of civilized, socially appropriate let alone responsible behavior. Which is to say it was so not okay, I am beyond my ability to put words to it. He can do so, so better.
I am not judging here. I am trying to convey to you that your OUTRAGE was justified and appropriate. These guys treat us so badly. What I have gone through no mother should live through. I love my son so much. I have suffered so much. Like you. Our pain is NOT okay. Disrespecting us is NOT okay.
Their welfare is NOT the only thing. Our welfare is central too. We need to demand and require of these sons of ours that they respect and protect our welfare. And if they don't we need to swiftly and directly confront it and require respect. R E S P E C T. I am channeling Aretha here.
Love, Copa