Yes, Star, things do fall apart when one of beloved family is in danger or crisis or need. Sending you continued prayers and healing juju to DF.
Isnt he eligible or already on Medicaid? And because he's eligible, doesn't that also entitle him to transportation for medical appts? I seem to remember years ago when the girls and I were on Medicaid, transportation to dr appts, labs, etc., we're covered via taxi. I guess it depends on where you live and I'm not up to date with all the changes in federal or state funded programs, but this sounds like absolute bs.
Not that you want to or have the energy to, but have you or will you report this SW to the hospital? Her attitude and words were inappropriate. Her JOB is to provide resources and answers for those patients in need. She should be pulling out all the stops to ensure that DF is medically treated and that the expenses are secondary to his recovery. on the other hand, if his prognosis is bleak, then an honest discussion about preparing for that is in order. Iow, it's not supposed to be all about the money!
Hugs...