It has been a while since I have been on, lots has happened. 36 year old daughter is back to being lazy and off track. My mother died suddenly 3 weeks ago unexpectedly. My daughter went with me to the funeral and even helped me officiate the service. My daughter was helpful and supportive and helped me with different things. Now my daughter is lazy and using her grandmothers death as an excuse to take it easy and not do anything or not pay her bills. My mother's death is very hard on all of us but the bills still need to be paid and the house and laundry still need to be done. My name is tied to a few of my daughters bills, I have to hound her each month to pay them, some of them will be paid off completely this fall. I am typing this out as a fact NEVER will I tie my name with hers on any financial matters. We are tired and wore out with her waiting for the last minute to pay her bills and then being harrassed for her constantly being late. We got into a blow out today. My husband told her off and then I talked with her and backed up everything that he had said. My husband told her that he was so tired and we are getting old and we are tired of her taking our retirement money. My husband had so much frustration in his voice. I will be so glad when the fall comes and several of her bills will be completely paid off, I will feel financial relief. I will never be suckered into signing my name on any of her bills. My mothers death weighs heavy on me, it has changed me in ways and it has made me less tolerable to my daughters B.S. I am truly headed into a new stronger direction and I can feel the shift in me. I will miss my mother very much, she was funny, entertaining, eccentric and interesting. I feel a deep sense of loss, this sense of loss makes my grief over my daughters behavior stronger and it also gives me renewed energy to knock off the crap she gives me faster.