My older brother was a screw up. He is currently in another country. The short version is that he was or still is a drug addict who got a girl pregnant in high school. His daughter I will call Page. She lived with her rather cold grandparents but was always a really sweet girl who got good grades and graduated college as a teacher. She met a very great man at work, also a teacher and a wedding was planned one year ago for this July. Wedding plans were set up. I am very close to Page. Her grandmother is in her late 70s now and grandfather is deceased. She and her mother, still screwing up, dont speak. I helped her plan the wedding and we paid for certain things. Page called crying a few nights ago. After being with her fiance for four years and at the last minute she called the wedding off, saying she hasnt been happy for a while and does not want to really be tied down. Came out of nowhere. I spent all night talking to her. She feels very guilty, but has made up her mind. The word is out now and everyone is calling ME, as if I am her mother. I am so stressed I cant explain. I had to turn off my phone. Kay by the way thinks its a riot. She is jealous of Page and called me to say she is now a screw up. I hung up on her. She was so mean about it. I left a message for Page to call me and told her that she had to be the one to cancel the plans and do everything else. The family thinks of me as such a doormat that they are all coming to ME. Nobody has heard from or seen Page. Her fiance called me frantic. I suspect she left town until she can get her act together. She truly IS sorry snd guilty and has a habit of disappearing when times are rough. But I have had enough grief with Kay and dont want to take this on too. I mean, she could have called this off six months ago, when she first started having doubts, instead of four weeks before the wedding. I would have had more time then and would have been more willing to help Page. I do love her. For now husband and I are planning a trip starting Sunday. Its s bad time for him to take off work. Our company thrives in the summer. But we feel we have no choice. I am packing as fast as I can and am not turning my phone on again for a while. I heard from relatives I hadnt spoken to in years because Page planned a big wedding. I am both furious at Page and feel so sorry for her. Sometimes I wish my heart were not so big. Thanks for listening.