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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 749541" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Great question!</p><p></p><p>I keep my comments very generic with people I've just met. </p><p></p><p>I'm a pretty private person by nature so I don't disclose a lot of details about my personal life. I have to know someone a while before I feel comfortable sharing the full story of my son. I have learned over time to be cautious with people as I have been burned. I shared with someone at work my son's story, thinking they were empathetic and for a moment, they were. Then I found out the story going through the "grape vine" was mine. I would walk into a room where other co-workers were and they would clam up. I knew they were talking about me. Another co-worker approached me to let me know people were gossiping about my situation and making speculations. I was deeply hurt. I felt ashamed. It took some time to work through those emotions but I learned a valuable life lesson and that's I will not share personal information unless I know I can trust the person.</p><p></p><p>Whenever you meet new people, it's those "get to know you" questions. Do you have children? Like I said, I keep my comments very generic. If I come across someone who is really pushy and keeps the interrogation going, I am perfectly fine with telling them, "I'm not comfortable discussing this with you". I know I have put people off by doing that but it's okay. If people are meant to be in my life they will be and the only people I want in my life are those who respect my wishes. </p><p></p><p>One thing I love about this site is the anonymity but also knowing I'm sharing with others who really get it and know what I'm going through.</p><p></p><p>Trust for me is huge and once it's been broken, it's one of the hardest things to get back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 749541, member: 18516"] Great question! I keep my comments very generic with people I've just met. I'm a pretty private person by nature so I don't disclose a lot of details about my personal life. I have to know someone a while before I feel comfortable sharing the full story of my son. I have learned over time to be cautious with people as I have been burned. I shared with someone at work my son's story, thinking they were empathetic and for a moment, they were. Then I found out the story going through the "grape vine" was mine. I would walk into a room where other co-workers were and they would clam up. I knew they were talking about me. Another co-worker approached me to let me know people were gossiping about my situation and making speculations. I was deeply hurt. I felt ashamed. It took some time to work through those emotions but I learned a valuable life lesson and that's I will not share personal information unless I know I can trust the person. Whenever you meet new people, it's those "get to know you" questions. Do you have children? Like I said, I keep my comments very generic. If I come across someone who is really pushy and keeps the interrogation going, I am perfectly fine with telling them, "I'm not comfortable discussing this with you". I know I have put people off by doing that but it's okay. If people are meant to be in my life they will be and the only people I want in my life are those who respect my wishes. One thing I love about this site is the anonymity but also knowing I'm sharing with others who really get it and know what I'm going through. Trust for me is huge and once it's been broken, it's one of the hardest things to get back. [/QUOTE]
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