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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 749620" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>My husband is upset with this person due to that comment as well as some other oddities over recent years.</p><p></p><p>I don’t tend to compare my situation with others, good or bad. I understand it’s human nature to do this. I had another friend tell me that she secretly hesitated to speak with me about silliness her son engaged in, because when she compared it with what I was going through, it indeed seemed silly. But, over the many years I started to think her son was perfect , she thought he was perfect, or didn’t think she was close enough to me to share her concerns. It was eye opening. It was actually, rather touching.</p><p></p><p>What sort of “gets,” to me is with another friend I once blurted out something inappropriate. I could of kicked myself. It was unkind, peculiar and I suppose revealing. I immediately asked for her forgiveness. Yes, our relationship has been ever so slightly “off” since then. It’s embarrassing and shameful. And totally unlike me. And reminds me that we are all fallible. </p><p></p><p>These are age old questions. If you have a good friend, a very close relationship for decades...I suppose there is a fairly good chance they might mess up royally one day.</p><p></p><p>My only hope was to apologize profusely when I messed up (different friend) which seemed to help. </p><p></p><p>The friend that said that weird thing to ME casually said something like “oh you know what I mean...” Unfortunately, there has been some other oddities with this friend that makes me painfully confused. PAINFULLY. So, I’ve pulled back a fair amount.</p><p></p><p>It felt crummy. I do believe there is a good chance she took or takes pleasure in my discomfort. This feels very crummy. I will re read these posts. They are appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 749620, member: 4152"] My husband is upset with this person due to that comment as well as some other oddities over recent years. I don’t tend to compare my situation with others, good or bad. I understand it’s human nature to do this. I had another friend tell me that she secretly hesitated to speak with me about silliness her son engaged in, because when she compared it with what I was going through, it indeed seemed silly. But, over the many years I started to think her son was perfect , she thought he was perfect, or didn’t think she was close enough to me to share her concerns. It was eye opening. It was actually, rather touching. What sort of “gets,” to me is with another friend I once blurted out something inappropriate. I could of kicked myself. It was unkind, peculiar and I suppose revealing. I immediately asked for her forgiveness. Yes, our relationship has been ever so slightly “off” since then. It’s embarrassing and shameful. And totally unlike me. And reminds me that we are all fallible. These are age old questions. If you have a good friend, a very close relationship for decades...I suppose there is a fairly good chance they might mess up royally one day. My only hope was to apologize profusely when I messed up (different friend) which seemed to help. The friend that said that weird thing to ME casually said something like “oh you know what I mean...” Unfortunately, there has been some other oddities with this friend that makes me painfully confused. PAINFULLY. So, I’ve pulled back a fair amount. It felt crummy. I do believe there is a good chance she took or takes pleasure in my discomfort. This feels very crummy. I will re read these posts. They are appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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