It has been a while since I have posted as I am so busy with work these days. I pop on during lunch breaks when I can to see how everyone is doing. My thoughts are always with you all. Today I am posting with the most disappointing and saddening news. I am too overwrought to talk about it but I can type about it. Problem child is being problem child, but he is alive and basically self sustaining on his benefits. We are probably due for a catastrophe but so far, no news is good news.
No, the one that got my husband and I straight in the heart this time is my lovely stepdaughter. Pregnant. With a horrible, hateful, tantrum throwing boyfriend. Boyfriend who wanted to be there when she told us so that he could rub it in, I'm sure. Thankfully he wasn't present. I am catastrophizing, I know, but it feels like the rest of her life is set now. Set for anxiety, sadness, struggle, no lasting joy or peace. She had been drinking a lot and seemed really stuck. She told us a while back that she didn't even really like this guy, that he wasn't good, but he was better than nothing. When she would try to break up with him he would hound her relentlessly, first with the sweet talk and then the self righteous abuse eg. 'I don't deserve this sh*t.' She would go back to calm him down and shut him up. And now this.
Once again I have to run but I would love to hear from you all to calm ME down and offer me and hubby some kind of hope. Right now I am so upset I can't even speak about it. I keep trying to put a positive spin on it and use all of the tools I have learned in therapy but the intrusive thoughts are killing me.
Love and hugs to you all.
No, the one that got my husband and I straight in the heart this time is my lovely stepdaughter. Pregnant. With a horrible, hateful, tantrum throwing boyfriend. Boyfriend who wanted to be there when she told us so that he could rub it in, I'm sure. Thankfully he wasn't present. I am catastrophizing, I know, but it feels like the rest of her life is set now. Set for anxiety, sadness, struggle, no lasting joy or peace. She had been drinking a lot and seemed really stuck. She told us a while back that she didn't even really like this guy, that he wasn't good, but he was better than nothing. When she would try to break up with him he would hound her relentlessly, first with the sweet talk and then the self righteous abuse eg. 'I don't deserve this sh*t.' She would go back to calm him down and shut him up. And now this.
Once again I have to run but I would love to hear from you all to calm ME down and offer me and hubby some kind of hope. Right now I am so upset I can't even speak about it. I keep trying to put a positive spin on it and use all of the tools I have learned in therapy but the intrusive thoughts are killing me.
Love and hugs to you all.