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<blockquote data-quote="healinginside" data-source="post: 763251" data-attributes="member: 29962"><p>Will you also be seeing them on Thanksgiving? That is next week, too. So, through my experience I learned to never force anyone to do anything that they don't want to do because then they will just be miserable the entire time. I also recently read an article about spending time during the holidays with difficult relatives and it said that if you don't go to the holidays then you lose the opportunity to repair the relationship.</p><p></p><p>In the situations of surprise pregnancies, it is my experience that, once the baby arrives, the only thing that's going to matter is that child. I'm assuming that you're going to want to have a relationship with that baby. </p><p></p><p>If you do find the strength to go to the gender reveal, just remember there's always a lot of activity of these gender reveal parties, so you could probably lay low at the party and get away with it without taking away from anyone's experience. </p><p></p><p>Since her husband is a jerk, sometimes it is helpful to have more people on her "side". </p><p></p><p>These were some tips for attending difficult family gatherings:</p><p></p><p><strong>Keep family gatherings friendly and conflict-free with these tips</strong></p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Adjust your attitude. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Have realistic expectations. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Keep potentially upsetting topics off-limits. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Don't drink too much. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Get active. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Practice gratitude. ... </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Practice tolerance.</li> </ol><p>At the end of the day only you know if you can go through with it. A family friend of ours just had a surprise pregnancy and now that the baby is here nobody cares about the circumstances that led up to the birth. It is more about the child now than anything else. Hope this helps...I will remember you in my prayers today to give you strength and guidance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="healinginside, post: 763251, member: 29962"] Will you also be seeing them on Thanksgiving? That is next week, too. So, through my experience I learned to never force anyone to do anything that they don't want to do because then they will just be miserable the entire time. I also recently read an article about spending time during the holidays with difficult relatives and it said that if you don't go to the holidays then you lose the opportunity to repair the relationship. In the situations of surprise pregnancies, it is my experience that, once the baby arrives, the only thing that's going to matter is that child. I'm assuming that you're going to want to have a relationship with that baby. If you do find the strength to go to the gender reveal, just remember there's always a lot of activity of these gender reveal parties, so you could probably lay low at the party and get away with it without taking away from anyone's experience. Since her husband is a jerk, sometimes it is helpful to have more people on her "side". These were some tips for attending difficult family gatherings: [B]Keep family gatherings friendly and conflict-free with these tips[/B] [LIST=1] [*]Adjust your attitude. ... [*]Have realistic expectations. ... [*]Keep potentially upsetting topics off-limits. ... [*]Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction. ... [*]Don't drink too much. ... [*]Get active. ... [*]Practice gratitude. ... [*]Practice tolerance. [/LIST] At the end of the day only you know if you can go through with it. A family friend of ours just had a surprise pregnancy and now that the baby is here nobody cares about the circumstances that led up to the birth. It is more about the child now than anything else. Hope this helps...I will remember you in my prayers today to give you strength and guidance. [/QUOTE]
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