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Will Kicking my addict son out of my home solve the problem ?
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<blockquote data-quote="Exhaustedmom" data-source="post: 620685" data-attributes="member: 17682"><p><span style="font-size: 18px">Yes COM mother its true as you mention , I was having same problems with me, my son was controling all of my fimily life for a period of time, every time when he gave us tension I got depressed my girls feel unsafe, my relationship with my husband is over, I was at point where I totally forgot my self, it was long time that I really feel happiness inside me , I forget when was the last time I laughed , or groom myself ,socially disconnected with society, avoiding peoples and friends. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">Feeling guilty thinking about this is my fault some where in my parenthood. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">Crying, praying, looking for help, feeling helpless, alone list go very long , but all that feeling and my love toward my son is just like I was punishing myself for something which I never did. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">But then when I was totally broken ,God help me . Some really very strong mothers on this forum help me with personal experience byadvising me, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">Now I do not feel alone or failed or miserable. I feel strong now, more than ever. It was very hard for me to take a decision to kick him out from my home, was scared ,where will he go ,what will he do in this weather, can be involved in criminal activity , so many fear keep me away making that decision. But he left no choice for me. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">And then I did kick him out from home.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">Since he left , first it was really hard for couple of days but I start seeing things clearly, My family is broken not because of me but because of him, we were use to be a very happy family long time before. Family dinner was always full of excitement and there was laughter. We prepare food together and was always fun, every bodies birthdays were use to be special event, we start planning to surprise long before the day, but those days are gone longtime , since he is on drugs we start struggling with him , slowly slowly unwillingly this family is not a happy family any more, my husband and me start arguing each other blaming each other , that effect on my daughters too. But the person who was responsible (my son) never take responsibility of this, and he too was blaming us. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">It was long time ago my husband reach at this point that we have to kick him out of the house or nothing will left, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">But it was me who was not looking at the picture from this point of view. And always hoping for better, that he will might be return, result ! My husband left me with a note saying "either he will stay in home or my son". </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">After my husband left I deal bigger problems like my son starting abusing us verbally, knowing that no body is here to protect us, asking for money, if I did not give him breaking the stuff in home smashing doors and walls etc. Finally i call police and he is out some where. Its being a whole week now.Since I have start seeing things clearly I feel no guilt , no pain . I am trying to not to think about him. And I start pampering myself. First time I feel myself as being I am , not as what was not, yes it is very very hard to bring yourself back in to life but not impossible. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">I realise that just kicking him out not only from my home but from my life will bring back my family together and we will laugh will have fun and have our family dinner together, just he wont be with us .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">It was just my first step to kicking him out from my home to bring that happy life back, I have to take further more steps to repair the damage my son did to us </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">I am just praying to my God ,give me that power, and help me </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px">I just want to say thank you from my deepest heart to all of you who read my post and advise me , showed me the light , the courage and the life.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 22px"> </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Exhaustedmom, post: 620685, member: 17682"] [SIZE=5]Yes COM mother its true as you mention , I was having same problems with me, my son was controling all of my fimily life for a period of time, every time when he gave us tension I got depressed my girls feel unsafe, my relationship with my husband is over, I was at point where I totally forgot my self, it was long time that I really feel happiness inside me , I forget when was the last time I laughed , or groom myself ,socially disconnected with society, avoiding peoples and friends. Feeling guilty thinking about this is my fault some where in my parenthood. Crying, praying, looking for help, feeling helpless, alone list go very long , but all that feeling and my love toward my son is just like I was punishing myself for something which I never did. But then when I was totally broken ,God help me . Some really very strong mothers on this forum help me with personal experience byadvising me, Now I do not feel alone or failed or miserable. I feel strong now, more than ever. It was very hard for me to take a decision to kick him out from my home, was scared ,where will he go ,what will he do in this weather, can be involved in criminal activity , so many fear keep me away making that decision. But he left no choice for me. And then I did kick him out from home. Since he left , first it was really hard for couple of days but I start seeing things clearly, My family is broken not because of me but because of him, we were use to be a very happy family long time before. Family dinner was always full of excitement and there was laughter. We prepare food together and was always fun, every bodies birthdays were use to be special event, we start planning to surprise long before the day, but those days are gone longtime , since he is on drugs we start struggling with him , slowly slowly unwillingly this family is not a happy family any more, my husband and me start arguing each other blaming each other , that effect on my daughters too. But the person who was responsible (my son) never take responsibility of this, and he too was blaming us. It was long time ago my husband reach at this point that we have to kick him out of the house or nothing will left, But it was me who was not looking at the picture from this point of view. And always hoping for better, that he will might be return, result ! My husband left me with a note saying "either he will stay in home or my son". After my husband left I deal bigger problems like my son starting abusing us verbally, knowing that no body is here to protect us, asking for money, if I did not give him breaking the stuff in home smashing doors and walls etc. Finally i call police and he is out some where. Its being a whole week now.Since I have start seeing things clearly I feel no guilt , no pain . I am trying to not to think about him. And I start pampering myself. First time I feel myself as being I am , not as what was not, yes it is very very hard to bring yourself back in to life but not impossible. I realise that just kicking him out not only from my home but from my life will bring back my family together and we will laugh will have fun and have our family dinner together, just he wont be with us . It was just my first step to kicking him out from my home to bring that happy life back, I have to take further more steps to repair the damage my son did to us I am just praying to my God ,give me that power, and help me I just want to say thank you from my deepest heart to all of you who read my post and advise me , showed me the light , the courage and the life. [/SIZE] [SIZE=6] [/SIZE] [SIZE=5] [/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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