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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 749431" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Ouch. I'm sorry, SS.</p><p></p><p>We too have elected to sever contact with our son after the latest bout of drama and abuse. As time goes by, I can feel the spot in my gut start to calm. But I know it won't take much to wake it up the next go-round.</p><p></p><p>Son recently took great advantage of a recovering addict who staked his finances and reputation on son. The end of the story is, the man's car is in impound on the other end of the state because of son's DUI and the man and his wife are potentially losing their apartment because they used son's income on their lease application and son is in the wind again...</p><p></p><p>I guess they thought, like we did so many times, that son just needed someone to show a little faith in him...</p><p></p><p>Some days the sadness and shame over how he's alienated/abandoned every single person in his life is quite overwhelming.</p><p></p><p>Then I remember I have nothing to be ashamed of; this all on him. And he's not ashamed of himself at all.</p><p></p><p>I totally understand your reaction and feel sorry for the woman as well, but I agree with Husband too.</p><p></p><p>Exactly what kind of answers does she think you can provide, that she doesn't already know? And...I mean really...what could she possibly expect you to do, as the parents of a 38-year-old man? As Copa so wisely pointed out, how exactly are YOU involved?</p><p></p><p>As hard as it is, no contact means no contact with the peripheral damage either.</p><p></p><p>It really hurts though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 749431, member: 17720"] Ouch. I'm sorry, SS. We too have elected to sever contact with our son after the latest bout of drama and abuse. As time goes by, I can feel the spot in my gut start to calm. But I know it won't take much to wake it up the next go-round. Son recently took great advantage of a recovering addict who staked his finances and reputation on son. The end of the story is, the man's car is in impound on the other end of the state because of son's DUI and the man and his wife are potentially losing their apartment because they used son's income on their lease application and son is in the wind again... I guess they thought, like we did so many times, that son just needed someone to show a little faith in him... Some days the sadness and shame over how he's alienated/abandoned every single person in his life is quite overwhelming. Then I remember I have nothing to be ashamed of; this all on him. And he's not ashamed of himself at all. I totally understand your reaction and feel sorry for the woman as well, but I agree with Husband too. Exactly what kind of answers does she think you can provide, that she doesn't already know? And...I mean really...what could she possibly expect you to do, as the parents of a 38-year-old man? As Copa so wisely pointed out, how exactly are YOU involved? As hard as it is, no contact means no contact with the peripheral damage either. It really hurts though. [/QUOTE]
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