Beware of promises, buttering up, promises, words in general. Words are cheap. They are easy to say and can make us forget the difference between saying something and actually doing something. You can tell what your adult really is going to do by what he or she actually does. Talk is just verbal vomit if it doesnt fit in totally with what is being done. Actions require no words. If your adult promises to be the salt of the earth (words) while just quitting rehab and staying unemployed and begging you for $20 or pay for a hotel, that is not consistent with promising to do better. Actions matter. Words are nothing but sounds. Actions. Trust their acrions only.!