Hi Copa - this is my youngest. She has autism and is very anxious. She is not going to school, or doing anything.
My oldest daughter is typical, work, friends, getting her license.
My youngest is just very fragile. We went to Ralphs yesterday because she wanted chips. I wasn't right next to her in the aisle - I kind of stood next to some boxes that were left on the shelf, zoned out, then she was right next to me, edge of tears "why did you leave me alone? i was surrounded by people." Most of the time, she waits in the car.
Taking her to the doctor, getting new glasses, it is a major ordeal.
The school district sent her to a non-public school, therapists everywhere! Even a "team" to come to our house. She went to school one day in the summer. The next day she eloped - she has done that since 13 - to a coffee house. They called me at work - they had lost her.
She called me, saying not to tell the school where she was.
I disenrolled her from the district after her last IEP when nobody listened to me. I told them she can't have therapists everywhere! Just getting to know and trust a teacher is enough of a hurdle, why have her get to know all these grownups? I counted on my hand all the various "helpers" at the IEP meeting they proposed, I said that is TOO MANY. Maybe it was even 8 total? She cannot handle it.
It was very very hard for me to give up. I feel alone in this, and regret trusting the experts too much. I ruminate a lot.