Dear LMS,
I’m so sorry for the heartache of all of this. I know how it feels to know that our grands are suffering.
Sad that she feels no one is there for her. She’s 14 and this is what she writes alone late at night.
I pray we can stand behind her and back up the position she’s in. She also told me that she looks forward to staying with us so she can “start living instead of just being alive.”
Though so difficult to read, the fact that your granddaughter is sharing her reality with you is a positive sign that she is trusting you and letting you know what is really going on. That’s huge, LMS. She is trusting you. I hope she is able to speak this truth with CPS workers.
Mom likes to have all the authority without any of the responsibility. She acted this way being next of kin during our son’s funeral arrangements too. Even at one point told the funeral director that he was not to speak to us again without her permission (texted him at 2:30am!)
I am so sorry. What a thing to deal with for you and your husband, grieving the loss of your son. It is telling that she is delusional.
And she collected on a wrongful death claim in regard's to the woman who hit our son on the highway.
Now she collects our son’s social security on each of our grandchildren.
She is cunning. She knows the system. Her kids are cash cows.
My grandson told me last week that they once went 4 months without barely eating.
My grands came to my home as youngsters, with voracious appetites and food hoarding. They suffered the same. Their parents qualified for EBT, but would sell off their benefits. They would buy food for their friends, who would pay half the value of it in cash. That’s how my grands parents paid for their drug habit. My grands were left eating scraps and saimin at the end of each month.
Point being that mom uses the kids to her benefit and throws her weight around to everyone regarding custody.
She is protecting her “assets”. Its awful.
We’ll see if CPS drops the ball or not.
Husband and I may have to hire a family law attorney. Our grandchildren have suffered long enough.
I’m hoping that CPS will step up, that may take going to a supervisor. Hopefully your grands will feel confident enough to open up and let CPS, or a lawyer know what is really going on. I spoke with CPS (dead end, again) then legal aid when my grands opened up to me about the abuse at their grandparents home. But the wheels got turning with CPS when my grandson had appendicitis and his grandparents came to the hospital and were quite hostile. They were forced to leave and the nurse asked my grandson if he was afraid of them, if they hit him. He said yes. CPS had to act, too many eyes on them. Police were called and they interviewed my grandson ( that was procedure so that the State could take custody). It was not an easy thing to go through, but my grands had already decided that they had enough abuse.
Occasional weekend visits with our grandchildren sure didn’t tell the whole story. And they’ve been trained to cover for mom.
This has been my experience as well. The secretiveness, covering up. It’s a hard road to travel for these kids, fiercely loyal to their parent, yet knowing that they are mistreated. It took awhile for my grands to come forward. Even then they were scared and confused. Your older grands are at an age where they can see through their Moms charade. I think your stepping in has given them a reason to hope and break through the barriers that their Mom has built. How you have described your granddaughter in previous posts shows her intelligence and resilience. Hopefully she will stand up for herself and her siblings and share her story with authorities. Sounds like she has carried much of the burden of becoming a “parent” at a young age.
Hang in there, LMS, it seems that your grands are ready to come forward and stand up for themselves. Praying this is so and that their Uncle is able to help sort this mess out.
(((Hugs)))
New Leaf
