CAmom
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Well, you were right, he WAS doing a lot more marijuana than we suspected, and that had to account for an ENORMOUS amount of the problems we were having, i.e., lack of motivation including regarding going to school, disrepect, easy irritability, and raging.
The day after he turned 17, he got involved in illegal activity with three "friends." Although one of the boys set the whole thing up, and my son wasn't involved in that part of it, nonetheless, he did nothing to stop it, so he's being considered an accessory. He and the other boys spent a little over a week in Juvenile Hall. This was my son's first brush with the law.
He's home now on "house arrest." Since he has been home and off all marijuana, he is like a completely different person! I had forgotten who my son was. He is no perfect angel by any stretch of the imagination, but we can actually communicate now without him going off into an angry tirade.
Of course, some of this is related to his intense relief about being allowed to come home, even though it is VERY restrictive. But, I have no doubt that being clean of marijuana MUST have a lot to do with this.
So, all of you who told me that I might be wrong about the effects of marijuana on my son were right. I was judging by my own and my friends' occasional recreactional use of marijuna when we were much younger when we used to smoke a couple of puffs, sit around and giggle, and snack too much. I simply couldn't relate to marijuana causing such a personatlity change in my son. Now, I know he was smoking at least one or two entire marijuana "blunts" a day, and, by his own admission, his life revoled around his "highs," and anything that came between him and his pot was an enemy, including me.
Of course, I know we aren't out of the woods. Being away from his buddies on house arrest keeps him from having to deal with the peer pressure. LUCKILY, when he is off house arrest, he will continue to be on probation and have to undergo routine drug testing. I can only hope he will continue to have the intense fear that he has right now about the possibility that he will automatically go back to Juvenile Hall if he tests positive for marijuana and that that will keep him away from using it again...
So, line up ladies...I'm ready for the "I told you so's..."
The day after he turned 17, he got involved in illegal activity with three "friends." Although one of the boys set the whole thing up, and my son wasn't involved in that part of it, nonetheless, he did nothing to stop it, so he's being considered an accessory. He and the other boys spent a little over a week in Juvenile Hall. This was my son's first brush with the law.
He's home now on "house arrest." Since he has been home and off all marijuana, he is like a completely different person! I had forgotten who my son was. He is no perfect angel by any stretch of the imagination, but we can actually communicate now without him going off into an angry tirade.
Of course, some of this is related to his intense relief about being allowed to come home, even though it is VERY restrictive. But, I have no doubt that being clean of marijuana MUST have a lot to do with this.
So, all of you who told me that I might be wrong about the effects of marijuana on my son were right. I was judging by my own and my friends' occasional recreactional use of marijuna when we were much younger when we used to smoke a couple of puffs, sit around and giggle, and snack too much. I simply couldn't relate to marijuana causing such a personatlity change in my son. Now, I know he was smoking at least one or two entire marijuana "blunts" a day, and, by his own admission, his life revoled around his "highs," and anything that came between him and his pot was an enemy, including me.
Of course, I know we aren't out of the woods. Being away from his buddies on house arrest keeps him from having to deal with the peer pressure. LUCKILY, when he is off house arrest, he will continue to be on probation and have to undergo routine drug testing. I can only hope he will continue to have the intense fear that he has right now about the possibility that he will automatically go back to Juvenile Hall if he tests positive for marijuana and that that will keep him away from using it again...
So, line up ladies...I'm ready for the "I told you so's..."