The court gave a temporary order, we needed a 730 evaluation, and CPS would continue to investigate because all the children reported domestic violence between her and boyfriends, and then one weekend, another guy starts sleeping over. We still aren't sure if her fiancé ever knew about him, but the next week she and new guy (we call him druggie) drove to Vegas and got married. With that info we found that he was 2 or 3 weeks out of prison, on parole. It turns out he absconded and never even checked in with his PO, until he was arrested outside the courthouse after testifying he also saw molestation.
All inherited her mental disability and having been accused of molesting his siblings, our middle son went off the deep end. Things were ok at first, he didn't see her for visitation until the therapist thought it was time. She never gave in to the lie and he became increasingly aggressive when confronting her about it. After nearly 2 years, therapist gave the green light for them to visit again, that's when he started acting out really bad.
Long story short, we have total custody now, if she ever decides to see them again, she needs to pay a court supervisor and that supervisor was given explicit orders that she was never to be left alone with any of them or interrogate them about what goes on here. It was also proven she told the twins to stop taking their medications and not to mind me. Because of that, our daughter was 5150'd.
Angry at the world, the path of destruction began. I've never had the testing process span from the end of one school year to the beginning of the next. I received notification that a meeting was scheduled to go over all the evaluations.
That day I sent an email to the vp and counselor. They wanted us to come in on 9/10 @ 1300. I'm out of town from. 9/3 to 9/21. The time wasn't possible either because of our younger children's school/bus schedule.
I explained our youngest children are out of school @ 12:30 on Mondays. Their bus drops them at home by 1450 Tu-Fr. We would not be able to meet after 1300 any weekday and not at all on Mondays. I reminded them
(AGAIN) my husband is off other Friday and we (and his boss) would prefer those Fridays over all of them.
Yesterday, I received the call for rescheduling, and was told "by law" they have to have this meeting within 30 days of school starting. School started 8/12, so, without even asking for date preference, it was scheduled on day 28.
I re explained our situation and due to a work conflict, my husband could not attend, and again, I'm out of town. She then stated that they would go ahead and convene the meeting in our absence and then table everything. I objected to that and stated we would only agree to that if they videoed that meeting so we can see and here everything. She stammered and said that the law doesn't require video, only audio. I reiterated, no video, no meeting.
I could tell she was frustrated, so, of course, the next move was to go back to the "law" and have the meeting within 30 days. I said I understood and we would be willing to sign a waiver pushing the meeting back. She claimed there was no way to do that and she would need to check with the District. I said I understood and for intent and purpose, the email requesting the date change is considered a legal document and should satisfy any legal requirements and would also support the school and District of any responsibility, if we decided to complain.
Layer that day I received a call from the school psychologist. She had not received the questionnaire from the psychiatrist. She also asked how things were going at home so I told her. You would have thought we had twins and sent the good one to school and kept the not so good one home. Going through his file, there was nothing to suggest that our son need an evaluation. Absolutely non of the behaviors I was speaking about were noted. A few teachers did have comments that hinted there were behavioral issues, and the questionnaire from the therapist mirrored my descriptions.
I asked if she had seen any of the letters of reprimand, warnings or suspensions. She stated there was nothing in our son's records showing any negative issues and that she would check to see if there may be some other file that contained all this.
From the start of last year through the end, we were open and upfront about the increase in behavior issues. We discussed the diagnosis and how we were struggling to get him to behave and stop agitating everyone into fights, hurting his siblings, and his constant threats to call 911 to accuse us of abuse. A couple months before the end of school, it was clear his diagnosis was adversely affecting both his academics and peer relationships. There were incidents in which he was attacking other students and was also being attacked, himself. We requested he be evaluated for Special Education.
A few weeks toward the end of the year, I reached out to the vp asking for assistance in having our son complete his community service hours at school. I was told he would be allowed to help the person who rode around on a golf cart to pick up trash. This would be done directly after school so there would be a gap between the last bell and when I would pick him up. It would be approximately 45 minutes a day, which would have completed his hours.
I mentioned it again at our first meeting requesting accommodations for our son. I also elaborated that most attempts at his hours we terminated because he would do whatever job so horribly, he would be asked to leave or some refused to sign his logbook. I mentioned that our son said he wasn't riding around with that person and often called to be picked up.
I scanned his log and emailed it to the vp. I informed him that all our attempts for completion were exhausted and it didn't seem as if the hours were being supplemented at school, as promised. I received an email reply stating our son would not be re enrolled for the upcoming school year for not completing his community service hours.
I contacted the District Special Education Director. I am unsure of her educational background, but the words that came out if her mouth were so absurd, I had doubts that she was even part of the education system. I informed her our son was identified at the beginning of the year as possibly needing accommodations. His behaviors prevented his completion of his hours, descriptions of behaviors and reminded her, we were in the evaluation process which prohibited our son from being removed administratively or judicially.
She went on for several minutes about how Charter school contracts allowed them to dismiss any student, Special Education or not. She even went as far as to claim a child could be dismissed or not reenrolled even if they had been hospitalized, Special Education or regular students are not exempt from the contract they sign at the beginning of the year. I thanked her for her time and said I needed to get off the phone because I was waiting for a return call from the Wrights Law people. 30 minutes later she called back asking if we could come to the District office to discuss our complaint with herself and the Superintendent.
My husband and I drafted an email reply to the vp asking for clarification of his statement. The actual words he used were if our son did not complete his hours, his 'ability' to reenroll "would be jeopardized". We also reminded him of his promises to assist our son by accumulating hours at school, reminded him that our son was identified at the beginning of the year as a possible accommodations candidate and we had already had the first meeting since our request for accommodations. We asked him to clarify if he was violating any of our son's State or Federal rights. If his intention was to follow through on what we perceived as a threat, to consider this email our written request for a manifestation hearing.
The Superintendent agreed that the vp should have followed through with the hours. I took that opportunity to also state we were in the evaluation process and were told the school psychologist would start the evaluations prior to the end of school. At this point, a few days before summer break, our son had not begun any tests. I received an email that same day from the school vp explaining our son's community service log would be accepted, remaining hours did not need to be completed and he would be enrolled for the following school year.
Now, I suspect, with the administrative proof gone, high academics and stabilization as if now, they will try to deny an IEP. Good thing I have the paper records of every warning, reprimand and suspension from last school year.
I agree that our son can be hell to deal with and the hand he was dealt coupled with the abuse and wretched allegations, we know it's going to be uphill. I'll be damned, though, if that vp thinks he can nitpick and look for loopholes to remove my son. If he thinks our boy is trouble, he has no clue what will rain down on him when I get going.
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