Posting this on behalf of @sadmother
Hi I saw this blog and a bit of comfort hearing that what is happening in my life is not that original.
My 41 year old is a homeless addict. Looking back the last 20 years I can see how we enabled him always, since high school, stealing from us and grandparents, having a big talk thinking that he felt so bad that it would never happen again. He always worked and was doing well, we thought but spending everything he earned . He got a trust fund at 25 and had parties with it bad loans to his friends, he went through that in just a few years . Whenever his dad or i would ask anything, he knew what he was doing and it was his business. After trouble with the law starting at 18 dui several in 4 years he had to go to work furlough instead of prison, due to the lawyer we hired.
Again we are thinking, boy, he learned his lesson. Well time went on he eventually got in more trouble at 29or 30 after being on his own he was arrested for identity theft and sentenced to prison for 4 years. he got out in 2004 family and friends embraced him again with love and support. His father passed away sudden, a blow to us all. He received another large sum of money from life insurance. Long story shorten he did well starting his own business and lived on his own for 5 years until his behavior got so mean and angry. we realize he was on drugs, his business failed his truck tolled away from so many delinquent parking tickets he never got his driving license back from 2000. He just never ever took care of any business, tickets, pay bills, rent.
After this last arrest he spent 6 months in prison he got out in December 2017 we told him he is on is own, which he said he intends to be because he hates all of us (his brothers and me) and wants nothing to do with us. Time went on and 4 months later he is homeless and on skid row LA. We have offered him rehab ^ months or whatever how long it takes to get healthy. He says he doesn't want rehab.. I know that there is nothing I can do until he ask, I am writing this because my heart hurts and I think he will be dead soon living like this. Guess this is his choice, I have to detach myself somehow, I really think that would be impossible.
Hi I saw this blog and a bit of comfort hearing that what is happening in my life is not that original.
My 41 year old is a homeless addict. Looking back the last 20 years I can see how we enabled him always, since high school, stealing from us and grandparents, having a big talk thinking that he felt so bad that it would never happen again. He always worked and was doing well, we thought but spending everything he earned . He got a trust fund at 25 and had parties with it bad loans to his friends, he went through that in just a few years . Whenever his dad or i would ask anything, he knew what he was doing and it was his business. After trouble with the law starting at 18 dui several in 4 years he had to go to work furlough instead of prison, due to the lawyer we hired.
Again we are thinking, boy, he learned his lesson. Well time went on he eventually got in more trouble at 29or 30 after being on his own he was arrested for identity theft and sentenced to prison for 4 years. he got out in 2004 family and friends embraced him again with love and support. His father passed away sudden, a blow to us all. He received another large sum of money from life insurance. Long story shorten he did well starting his own business and lived on his own for 5 years until his behavior got so mean and angry. we realize he was on drugs, his business failed his truck tolled away from so many delinquent parking tickets he never got his driving license back from 2000. He just never ever took care of any business, tickets, pay bills, rent.
After this last arrest he spent 6 months in prison he got out in December 2017 we told him he is on is own, which he said he intends to be because he hates all of us (his brothers and me) and wants nothing to do with us. Time went on and 4 months later he is homeless and on skid row LA. We have offered him rehab ^ months or whatever how long it takes to get healthy. He says he doesn't want rehab.. I know that there is nothing I can do until he ask, I am writing this because my heart hurts and I think he will be dead soon living like this. Guess this is his choice, I have to detach myself somehow, I really think that would be impossible.