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Mom? What's a difficult child?
My difficult child doesn't know the swear words YET, but she can go on and on for up to an hour about how much she wants to kill me, how dumb I am and basically saying horrible things that tear a parents heart out. We tried a lot of the suggestions on here as well and I aggree with the ignoring them and a lot of what TRL says. We don't have cable anymore as well and I think that helps also.
I started ignoring her when she goes into her fits, I ask her to please leave the room because she is upsetting me and her sister and if she wont then we leave the room.
If we are in public I remove her from the scene and let her breakdown in the car. I have had to let her thrash the car while her sister and I sat on the bumper and waited...
My husband works out of town most of the time so I have had to figure these things out through trial and error.
After her explosion and screaming fit we have a little metal bank that she blows all of her bad feelings into and we talk about it and she feels really bad usually. By her blowing out the "angries, frustrations and sadness" she hopes that she will have more room for happy feelings. I let her pick the purple bank that she uses and she loves it.
After doing this a few times, now sometimes when I see her starting to build up some of her anger and frustration I can curb it before it starts and I say " hey can we go try and blow out some of these feeling you are having?" Then we usually have to lay together for awhile and decompress I have little workbooks for her to work on new her bed. As well as a "Mrs. Feelings" Box next to her bed with a bunch of relaxing little things to work on and look at. Crayons, books, photos, cars, dolls special things only in the box.
It doesn't always work but it has helped, especiallt when I am by myself.
I think your son is 4 so they are close in age my daughter is 5.
The babysitter thing is a whole other nightmare hang in there!!!
good luck
I started ignoring her when she goes into her fits, I ask her to please leave the room because she is upsetting me and her sister and if she wont then we leave the room.
If we are in public I remove her from the scene and let her breakdown in the car. I have had to let her thrash the car while her sister and I sat on the bumper and waited...
My husband works out of town most of the time so I have had to figure these things out through trial and error.
After her explosion and screaming fit we have a little metal bank that she blows all of her bad feelings into and we talk about it and she feels really bad usually. By her blowing out the "angries, frustrations and sadness" she hopes that she will have more room for happy feelings. I let her pick the purple bank that she uses and she loves it.
After doing this a few times, now sometimes when I see her starting to build up some of her anger and frustration I can curb it before it starts and I say " hey can we go try and blow out some of these feeling you are having?" Then we usually have to lay together for awhile and decompress I have little workbooks for her to work on new her bed. As well as a "Mrs. Feelings" Box next to her bed with a bunch of relaxing little things to work on and look at. Crayons, books, photos, cars, dolls special things only in the box.
It doesn't always work but it has helped, especiallt when I am by myself.
I think your son is 4 so they are close in age my daughter is 5.
The babysitter thing is a whole other nightmare hang in there!!!
good luck
, and idiot and says he hates me, he actually really loves me. I am going to keep trying this approach, so are my husband and easy child. We had a good laugh when I told them both about the evening I had with difficult child and how angry he was when he didn't get a reaction. At least I am feeling calm about everything and I feel like I have disarmed him - for now.
