I am new to this forum ( 1st post) and am grateful to have found it. I have a 26 y/o stepson diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder. He has been troubled his entire life. He spent his teen years in various ranches for troubled kids. He now runs a contractor business like his own personal criminal enterprise and is facing charges for stealing from customers, taking deposits without doing the work and insurance fraud. Past misdemeanors/ felonies for multiple domestic violence charges, assault with a stolen gun, multiple theft charges etc. Girlfriend had to get a PPO. His child was removed by CPS. He squanders money, lies , cheats, steals and is verbally and physically abusive and the only remorse he has ever shown is when he gets caught. Stepson has driven his mother to attempt suicide twice, his father to alcoholism and given me chronic anxiety, a phobia and a stomach ulcer. My husband is passive with his son, there are no healthy boundaries, he runs to do his son’s bidding bending over backwards. My husband wont go to counseling anymore or read any of the self help books that I’ve bought. We will soon be entering our retirement years and I am sick with the thought that this situation will continue until the day we die. I despair that my husband will never stand up to his son and that I will have to get a personal protection order eventually. Incredibly my husband thinks the solution is to have his son around more, but the longer he is around the worse his behavior becomes.
Can anyone offer me any insight into why a parent would allow such behavior and what is the poor step parent supposed to do?
Can anyone offer me any insight into why a parent would allow such behavior and what is the poor step parent supposed to do?