My daughter was in jail for a week, I put money into her account so she could call me and it was, as you said, heart wrenching! Little did I know my daughter was making it sound so much worse than it was, children know how to pull you, work you to their advantage. The horror stories she told me over the phone turned out to be.....I slept all day, read books, watched tv, I was bored. Keep communicating with her but, be strong even if you cry after the phone call ends. Don't give in to anything she says but push forward to what will happen when she gets out. After my daughter got out it was great for a month, she was recovering from the shock of being outside those bars but sadly we are heading in the direction, in 6 months time, of what put her behind those bars. Stay strong, chat with her, go visit her but, don't give in to her. Very good reason why she is in jail, hopefully a lesson learned.