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So glad that the authorities are finally involved in a way that may be helpful; but at the very least should give you some sort of "time out"/pause, to catch your breath. If she is in detention, then you know all the bad places she is not!

Thanks Praecepta. The locked doors would not obstruct the ONLY path out, but one of several alternate paths out. But who knows which path one will need in a fire...options are good. I like the alarm on the door option - at least re my office. Thank you for this suggestion. We have smoke...

Depending on your state, eviction may not take 30 days. You will probably have to serve him with notice or "notice to quit" as it is called in some states (the quit having nothing to do with quitting the drugs!) and then wait a certain period of time. In my state, it is 3 full business days...

To those of you who lock doors in your house -- not locking difficult child IN a room - but rather locking difficult child OUT OF a room, do you worry about locked internal doors and fire? I would like to lock difficult 17 yo son out of my home office, which connects to a bathroom which...

ALO? (sorry, I'm still new)

Yes, Yes, and Yes. Living almost exactly the same story here.

I do concur that in this situation homeschooling may be making things harder. And I am a homeschooling parent (5 kids, homeschooled them all, for varying amounts of time, up until entry to high school, at which time they went to public high school); so I am not slamming homeschooling or online...

To clarify, I probably did a poor job of explaining in previous posts. Son has never shoved me; last night shouldered me to keep me from coming into bathroom, put his elbow out so that I couldn't squeeze past him to get in bathroom. Younger kids have never seen him shove me or block me, or get...

Counsellors son has seen say no mental health issues, no mental health diagnoses - just oppositional defiant disorder. I agree that there well could be something going on, but so far we have no insight or clarity into what. I don't know about harder drugs - I couldn't rule it out, but I have no...

...one on one, because two on one inevitably escalates the situation. Son was basically unhinged. He really was like an out-of-control crazy person, **verball**y. Said horrible horrible things to me shouting screaming telling me to :censored2: myself telling me :censored2: you, telling me how much he hated...

Thanks - I'm have become well versed in my state's laws in this regard, and for this purpose; I know the process and what I have to do. (Have him served with a Notice to Quit, give a certain period for him to move out, then can evict with assistance of police etc. if necessary. This is not...

Yes, evicting him is an option. It will be awful, but it is likely I will (have to) do so.

Yes, Mr. Percy was home. I woke him up when I smelled the pot. I told him that I was going to address the situation, and that I thought it better 1:1, because 2:1 usually escalates and makes it much worse. And my husband has been losing his cool (verbally) in frustration with him lately...

Oh - I will offer one point - we homeschooled our kids for many years up to high school. Seeking academic rigor reasons. For 80% of my kids it was, on balance, a very good thing, and they thrived. But for my son who sounds a bit like your son (although no physical aggression), in hindsight, it...

Your story is so familiar. I wish I had lots of advice, but I don't. I can say that I have been on this forum for only about a week - days of reading reams of posts, then making a few posts of my own. And it has been so, so helpful. No, I don't have solutions, or answers. But it has helped...

...that contact... a child blocking his mom and elbowing her like a toddler? or a man elbowing and shouldering another, smaller, weaker person..? ***You all helped me so much to recognize one dynamic in the moment (I often would see it after the fact, but last night was the first time I was...

I am a volunteer crisis advocate of victims of sexual assault and domestic violence, so while I am not an expert, I have had much first hand contact with similar situations. Maybe I can offer some objective context that will be helpful. It takes women and average of 7 times leaving an abuser...

Thanks UpandDown - your shared experience makes me feel not so alone, and not "crazy" in what I am feeling.

My sympathy for the pain you must have experienced that brought you to this forum, and for the loss of your son. I hope that you can avail yourself of any virtual and non-virtual resources that can assist you with the practical things you must now deal with, as well as your grief and suffering.

I think you are correct. He often flings retorts about how he is living in the "real world" and living like an adult.