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Welcome, Mercury! So much of what you wrote resonates with me and our situation and so many others that I have read on this board. And the pain us parents feel is tremendous. I'm fairly sure not everyone can relate to the deep hurt these situations cause us. It is profound. Do you happen to know...

How very sad and concerning . What brought about this adoption? Are either bio parents mentally ill? Was there possible drug use or alcohol during the pregnancy? Right off the top…when she threatens to kill you, you should call the police. Period. Make sure you keep your valuables locked up and...

My hubby just retired and it's become crystal clear right now that we have no choice but to put "the situation" aside and live each day to the fullest. Not only that, but I have two friends currently with stage four cancer and it is gut wrenching to observe what they are experiencing. Life is...

I’m so sorry. How are you feeling today? I too picked and chose who I spoke to candidly about our daughter. Most others I might say she had “adhd,” which was not a lie. But not the full story by any means. One day, our son’s best friend tracked down her mug shot. She was conned into...

Condolences.

It’s good you got info! An arrest could of led to treatment if nothing else resources for help.

We are in a somewhat similar situation. I recall a period of time when our son was angry and we could barely discuss our daughter with him. He wanted her sent far far away and could not understand why we associate with her at all. These days, they are both adults. We still sort of hold back...

This type of thing is the age old question. Tough love very often works with young people. It's advisable as it very much helps them see reality. However, what of people who are mentally ill? Is it just being, for lack of a better way of putting it, sort of unkind? If you think she might respond...

You've already gotten so much good insight and advice. I tend to agree with your husband, as well. Taking on the responsibility of your grandchild and/or your daughter along with the child, will only cause further emotional and financial strain. You might gently suggest to her to consider...

Dad…your post shows a father who deeply loves her daughter. The despair when they are using, making no sense at all and living on the edge is so painful. The comments snd advice already provided have been excellent. At my worst, I did also get help from Families Anonymous. I like their...

I’m sorry to read this. I am often in this space and struggle to at the very least remain somewhat hopeful. Miracles, although no doubt rare, I think are a real occurrence. The “let go and let God” realization is powerful and strengthening. These adult children certainly prove to us...

Hello. Agreeing with the others. If your son was younger than 21 MAYBE I would feel slightly different , as many are still very childlike at 18. But at 21 something should start clicking with your son. And enabling only makes things more complicated and drag on. Either he is going to face...

MandaC…I wouldn’t worry too much about losing your temper. You are not a robot. Of course, you should refrain from making a habit out of. BUT your son breaks boundaries repeatedly and this weakens a person’s resolve. Maybe he needs to experience the fallout. Hold on to your boundaries. And...

Guess what? It’s March 1 and for me and my situation with my “special” needs adult child…things are upside down.

wow....had to look up this word "fragmented," although I understand what it means generally, of course there is a bit more to it psychologically. I can tell you when my adult child is upset or under stress (often situations her impulsivity and/or poor choices have put her in) a weird phenomenon...

Your post is extremely well written and very touching. Your expression “summon up those demons” wow…really struck a chord with me. As just communication with our daughter very often creates extreme chaos. Very sorry to read how hard your daughter is on you and men and that your husband’s...

Welcome and wow…your story reads like a novel, NOT due to length, but due to the interesting detail, ups and downs, ins and outs and clear cut strength/fortitude. Personally, I’m not so sure your blowing up was so harmful. There ARE consequences to repeated irresponsible behaviors, disrespect...

I'm so sorry. Taking it out on the puppy is abhorrent and a giant red flag. It can't be allowed to happen again. You need respite. Right now, you'll have to take it in any little , tiny way you can. While she is hospitalized, pick yourself up a nice meal. Talk on the phone with an...

I am so sorry. Like the others have said, many of us are now hanging out at the PE Forum, but that doesn't mean there isn't activity here and it doesn't mean that we don't well remember the earlier days. Our daughter was adopted as an infant. Almost from toddlerhood, I began to notice...

It truly breaks your heart.