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To me, institutionalization differs from what i am describing about jail and prison reception centers. Jail becomes a "time out." They know they will soon be out. And they can lay back, until that happens. Long-term prison is different. Institutionalized inmates feel security in prison...

What a coincidence. Last night I dreamt (so seldom do I remember my dreams) that I ended up back working in prison. I couldn't find my way out of the prison in my dreams, no matter how much I tried. I was desperate to leave, and couldn't. But the thing I remembered reading your text, is that I...

I worked in prison mental health for 30 years. Many guys, particularly, just love jails and prison reception centers. Maybe "love" is putting it too strongly, but not much. They have absolutely no responsibilities or demands on their time. They get healthy. They work out. They get the necessary...

If the public defender says he can be bonded if he goes to a treatment center, I would do what I could (to a point) to help this happen. But I would recognize and try to remember that it is your son's decision. I would not pay anything. I would not incentivize him in any way.. At the onset, I...

Fine. This may be so. Or maybe not. Only your son's efforts and commitment will determine the outcome. NOT HIS WORDS. NOT YOUR ACTIONS. Words are cheap. They are blah blah blah blah. I would say, let your son take responsibility to determine what he needs. BY HIS CONDUCT. BY HIS ACTIONS.

I think it was. As I understand, your son asked about either a sober living house or a drug treatment program. You asked his question to the public defender exactly as your son presented it to you. Your son got the answer he wanted. The public defender said yes, if he went into a drug...

Thank you for this resource.

He has deserted himself. You are only responding to the reality of the situation. Does two drowning people make sense? Then, there's really no hope, if you go down with him. You'd be pulling each other down.

I worked for 30 years in prison psychiatry here in the States. There is help here. Mostly medication but also regular counseling. They can't force medication on inmates unless they meet specific criteria. But there is help. I know that to be true. My son has paranoid delusions. While not as...

Hi Fallingin. What was your user name here before? Look. There are two ways to look at your situation. Both involve at their heart kindness and compassion for yourself. i think chemo is one of the hardest things in life to go through. Paying for an Airbnb so that you don't have one more stress...

Such a great summation, Nomad.

Good.

Thank you very much Beta. We understand each other. What a gift that is.

How are you? I'm worried about you.

Hi newstart. I have been reading along. I wonder if who your daughter is trying to kid, is herself. My sister who I haven't had a relationship with or seen for many years boasts. I just can't stand that quality. She likes asserting superiority over people. I can't stand that quality either. But...

One of the things that adults need to do is to play the hand they were dealt. It is too late for any of us to get a new deal. We can't turn in our cards and insist on another try. We can't intimidate our fellow players to trade their cards for ours. This is what comes with maturity. The...

First I will tell you how sorry I am you received this gut punch. When my son's life went off a cliff, so did mine. It took many years and a lot of posting before I got myself back. So what I write here in no way is to diminish how hard this is. But here goes: Who knows about your son's arrest...

OK. This is good, to a point. No drinking is good. But what is your son looking to you for? This is the thing: the updates you need are from you, not him. He needs to come to live for himself, his own well-being. Not how it affects you. This is the cord that has to be broken. Love is not...

This is the red line that has been crossed. You can't ignore it. In the USA there is something called a restraining order. that limits contact with somebody who has threatened violence against us. In your situation, your son has already acted violently and has a pattern of violence. People get a...

I am so so sorry.