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Hi--I am only now seeing your post. Why not start a new thread as this one is old? That way others can respond to you. Are you in the United States? If so, is your son with Regional Center? Regional Center should provide a behavioral consultant to work with your son and you to help him curb...

New Leaf, I don't remember if you ever told us, but does she use the drug through injection? This is the most difficult thing to quit, but even so, people do it. My town was on the Meth Highway during the 90's from Mexico. All around my town, I can see people working, their faces, no teeth...

Yes. When I read this I felt Deni's words viscerally. Tornado isn't trying to hurt you. She's protecting herself. Imagine what it would be to have to accept giving up 20 years of her life, her children, and most of all her self-respect. it must feel to her to be such a crushing loss that she...

This is crazy-making. It's putting all the onus on you: the problem here is your "hating her" rather than her choices and behavior being hateful and hurtful. Again, I feel nuts just reading this, however many thousand miles away I am. OK. I read this as I will continue to live exactly the way...

As a social work student, your sister understands psychopathology. She also understands enmeshment and the need for appropriate boundaries. She also understands the need to support the client and their highest potential. She understands the need to respect designated family units. Alas...

I agree with MG in every particular. I would like to add only one thing from the point of view of a parent. If I am in any way an exemplar of parental attitudes toward mentally ill children who use drugs to excess, there is a great deal of fear involved that one's child will never recover...

Hi. I don't have any comment on a medication wash but do want to respond to the above. I worked in psychiatry in prisons for many years, including with the most disturbed inmates. Even "clean" of illegal substances, the effects of long-time and serious drug use are still present. I stopped this...

These decisions are his entirely. My son is 35. He has been homeless for many years. I have done everything I can think of to provide housing, and to urge him to avail himself of drug treatment, mental health and medical care, job training, and job placement. And anything else I can think of...

I want to tell you (again) how grateful I am you're here, MG. You give me hope. I admire you greatly.

How I know. Me too. I wish you did not think or feel this. I do remember you. I am so sorry life has gotten this difficult. It does for so many of us. Please don't think this has anything to do with your worth. Life is just so hard for so many of us. We have to try hard to be kind to...

I want to add this. I understand with all my heart what newstart is saying here. She is describing the impossible agony that we suffer, when we choose for ourselves over our child. And she is supporting you to look as deeply as you can, with God, about what you can do, how far you can go...

I went through a form of this for years. I did not consent that my son sleep in the yard, he did it anyway. He was a squatter. He peed and pooped in the yard. He smoked marijuana. It was horrible. He would sit on the porch and smoke cigarettes. It was a complete nightmare. It went on and on and...

I am so sorry.

If you've used your real name as your member name I suggest you change it to something anonymous.

Several years ago I read in the newspapers about loving and devoted parents who surrender their parental rights so that their children can get the medical and mental health treatment that the children require but cannot get. The article was sympathetic and understanding. When children are in...

To me, institutionalization differs from what i am describing about jail and prison reception centers. Jail becomes a "time out." They know they will soon be out. And they can lay back, until that happens. Long-term prison is different. Institutionalized inmates feel security in prison...

What a coincidence. Last night I dreamt (so seldom do I remember my dreams) that I ended up back working in prison. I couldn't find my way out of the prison in my dreams, no matter how much I tried. I was desperate to leave, and couldn't. But the thing I remembered reading your text, is that I...

I worked in prison mental health for 30 years. Many guys, particularly, just love jails and prison reception centers. Maybe "love" is putting it too strongly, but not much. They have absolutely no responsibilities or demands on their time. They get healthy. They work out. They get the necessary...

If the public defender says he can be bonded if he goes to a treatment center, I would do what I could (to a point) to help this happen. But I would recognize and try to remember that it is your son's decision. I would not pay anything. I would not incentivize him in any way.. At the onset, I...

Fine. This may be so. Or maybe not. Only your son's efforts and commitment will determine the outcome. NOT HIS WORDS. NOT YOUR ACTIONS. Words are cheap. They are blah blah blah blah. I would say, let your son take responsibility to determine what he needs. BY HIS CONDUCT. BY HIS ACTIONS.